My son is a freshman with a good chance to make the varsity. I have made it a point to not get involved. I drop him off for workouts and pick him when he calls. We talk baseball at the dinner table and he keeps me up to date on things. As much as I want to be out there watching, talking baseball with the coaches, parents etc. the feedback I have read on this site has kept me away.
My son seems to be handling things well. I know he can play at that level now, his talent on the field is whats important. If he can play they will will put him on the varsity, if he can't he will play JV. It has made things much easier to be on the sidelines.
The only time I have talked to the coach was on a field day where the parents were asked to help clean up and fix the fields. The coach sought me out and asked a few questions about my son. Other than that I have my chair, sunflower seeds and shades ready. It is what it is.