Look, for the organizations, the cost of travel is a business expense, and largely funded by the parents. Are they really are of the overall total cost of all this??
We spend 2-3000 in organizational fees, then add on the cost of, lets say, six tournaments(600 per weekend minimum for hotel, food, gas, etc). We are spending 5-6000 bucks for our kids to play at this high level that everyone tells us our kid needs to be at. I have two of them doing it, and it is hard as heck to make it work. My wife and I are divorced, so we both struggle with the cost.
As for the kids, when do they get to be kids? We played every weekend from school out to mid-July with no time for practices. Game experience is good, but what are you doing to help them get better?