Mrmom,
I think many times the situation “just develops” and other times parents and players fail to listen on the front end. Those situations that “just develop” may be beyond our control but the others can be minimized. We all want good thing to happen to our sons and sometimes we get overly optimistic and only hear what we want to or fail to read between the lines. For instance: If the program had no (zero) freshmen start over the past few years why should things change just because your (my) son came to the program? We have to be brutally realist during the recruiting ride. I don’t lay blame on the college coaches simply because I don’t think coaches lie about playing time... but they can be a little vague. Sometimes you are left to fill in the blanks and that is when you need to be a realist. Another person’s perspective is always helpful during this time.
Good topic.
Fungo