2013dad,
Experience, and each person posting here has a son or son's with experience, will tell you the commit isn't what makes most talented and highly competitive players happy.
It is the 4-5 years after the "commit" that should be the goal. That will define the player and his level of happiness/satisfaction. The "commit" gets you in the door. Talent, being on the field and producing creates the result you are seeking.
In the world of college baseball, I would propose the amount of "integrity" a player and his family can expect from the process, the program and the coaching staff can be reflective of the "integrity" the player and parent create and bring to the process and program.
This is not a 1:1 I am sure, but I still like swampboy's view to bring integrity to the process.