My son and i sometimes discuss the "what if" he was held back (2018 that will be 17 when he graduates)...he committed to a regional dominate D3 --he's also gained 20 pounds of muscle the past few months (6'1/180). He was excepted into a doctorates program and has a substantial merit amount...
then i say, "oh well...it wasn't meant to be" and we start talking about how great it is to achieve what he has achieved and we forget about what could have been.