Seedthrower,
been reading the post. people give you their opinions, and in the end it is your son, your family. You are right you cant put every detail on a site, and people reading it get sometimes a portion of whole story. I wish your son the best. We havent crossed this bridge yet.But our boys are becoming adults and they have to begin to make adult decisions, these decisions may not turn out to be the right ones and we have to sit and sometimes suffer with them or rejoice if it works out.There is no clear cut right and wrong on these types of things.I hope it all turns out good for your son and your family.