2020DAD, I think the key you are missing is this. Many people tell kids to go "go where you are wanted, or in some conversations loved" if you aren't in that category you are an after thought...if you add that thought to the process your frustrations are incorrect.
There is a big difference between somebody that, after all the perceived better options have gone, they are now being willing to give you a look see and actually being recruited like a guy they love....
very very big difference.