This all sounds good, but being involved at this for so long and knowing how easy it is to make a mistake.... Not sure I would ever allow one person to dictate the level of play someone is capable of. That is always determined by the player and the real decision makers.
Quick true story. A State DI coach that I knew really liked a young player and was planning on recruiting him. The player was on a team coached by a legendary guy with a great reputation. In fact, he was a former long time scout. The players coach insisted his player was nowhere near a DI level player and at best should play at a small DIII college. or go to the local junior college. The college recruiter, respecting the legendary coach lost interest in the kid and quit thinking about recruiting him. In fact, he told the kid he should consider going to a Junior College. If he did well there they would have a spot for him.
5 years later, after a great JC year (at a better JC program), that young kid was in the Major Leagues. That kid had committed to a major power program, but was drafted and signed.
Never allow one person to dictate the future.