My son has decided to go with option 3 (50 minute drive) and is excited about joining the team. I looked and my gym has a location a few minutes away, so I'll have a productive place to go during practice.
I sincerely appreciate everyone's feedback, all of it has been enlightening. I knew there would be a sampling bias posting this question to this board but that is exactly what I wanted, people who have been there and done that and know what it takes. Much appreciated.