@old_school I think it's great. They say one of the hardest things about devoting so much time to playing sports is that sometimes your identity gets tied up into it so much that you have to figure yourself out when you no longer have "the game" as your life... Spending time with them without talking about sports reinforces the fact that they are so much more to you. Just my opinion...
@PTWood posted:@old_school I think it's great. They say one of the hardest things about devoting so much time to playing sports is that sometimes your identity gets tied up into it so much that you have to figure yourself out when you no longer have "the game" as your life... Spending time with them without talking about sports reinforces the fact that they are so much more to you. Just my opinion...
My son grew up with how the sports were going as a main focus at our large family Thanksgivings. The Thanksgiving after college graduation he got asked how the job is going. He turned to me, laughed and commented he’s now as boring as the rest of us.
His sister is older. Since none of the women outside mom (and girlfriend after divorce) played sports and the guys weren’t all that interested in women’s sports she didn’t get much of the sports talk.
My son enjoyed the sports talk. My daughter enjoyed not getting it. After being a prosecutor the past five years with some high profile cases in a family full of lawyers she’s been getting the talk attention. But this summer she became a boring, well paid lawyer.
@PTWood posted:@old_school I think it's great. They say one of the hardest things about devoting so much time to playing sports is that sometimes your identity gets tied up into it so much that you have to figure yourself out when you no longer have "the game" as your life... Spending time with them without talking about sports reinforces the fact that they are so much more to you. Just my opinion...
you are probably correct here that it is healthy. We have to learn a new way to live!!
My father played fastpitch softball till the day I started LL. My first memories are of his games, i played until the day my son started LL and his first memories are the same. Now he tells me he has no interest in playing ball after to school. He says he has done it and there is no point in chasing something that doesn't exist...Every Memorial day, 4th of July and Labor day of my life (prior to covid) have involved a tournament of some fashion in some state for some reason. This one is gonna take a little getting used to!
As I have mentioned here, we thought our 2017 would be packing up for grad school and another year of baseball right now, but real life, aka a job offer, interrupted that plan. Yesterday, he texted us to say he had passed his Series 7 exam (apparently a big step for those starting out in the financial world) and I'm like "what was your score, where did you place, how'd the rest of the team do, how many runs did you drive in?" But no..... it's just pass / no pass and move on accordingly. Square something up, kid!
Ah, well, the Giants won again last night.
I found myself constantly telling my daughter that softball was what she did and not who she was. That lesson has not entirely been embraced by her. I remember her starting to cry in the 4th inning when the #1 went down with an injury in her last game. Then, #2 threw 1 pitch and walked off the field. From there it only got worse. Since that time, she has entered the coaching field but it is hard for her to adjust to this new role. Don't get me wrong, she loves coaching. However, she is coaching in a high-pressure situation where she can't control the outcome of a game with her bat. I think she finally took the first steps the other day when she started to change the looks of her apartment and took down all of the motivational quotes she had on her walls as a player. Many of us on this site have been through this and it isn't easy. Still, there is always a place for asking the kid to play catch. For me, that is still a thrill.
I got the first real glimpse last night as I signed my kid's collegiate baseball league contract for summer 2022. Even though it is in the same state it is several hours away from home. He will be living with a host family for 2 months with a room mate that will hopefully be his college room mate. Wife already started looking for lake house rentals in the area...I told her we have another kid to think about.
It's amazing how things have come full circle here. My 2017 has hung it up and moved on to greener pastures of teaching high school history and coaching. After dabbling this past summer with Indy ball, he quickly realized that his run with baseball was over and surprisingly (shockingly) I am at peace. The only baseball we talk is how the Giants continue to keep the Dodgers at bay. Candidly -- its kinda nice to hear about his "new life" and watch him take the next steps forward in his "new journey".
@MAM posted:It's amazing how things have come full circle here. My 2017 has hung it up and moved on to greener pastures of teaching high school history and coaching. After dabbling this past summer with Indy ball, he quickly realized that his run with baseball was over and surprisingly (shockingly) I am at peace. The only baseball we talk is how the Giants continue to keep the Dodgers at bay. Candidly -- its kinda nice to hear about his "new life" and watch him take the next steps forward in his "new journey".
At a family Thanksgiving of twenty-two my son looked around the room and said, “I have a great job. But now I’m as boring as the rest of you.”
He was accustomed to years of “How is baseball (or other sports) going?”
Dropped off 2021…now he is officially a 2025! In a field of excited incoming freshman and sophomores the baseball team captain met 2021 literally as soon as he stepped foot on campus and showed us to 2021’s room. An hour to unpack, and then it was “bye mom and dad!” Six hours later we got our first text … “long toss, batting cages then lifts then dinner” he is on cloud 9! A little quieter for us as he was our youngest. Glad the dream (for all of us) will continue a little longer!
son went off to start soph year yesterday. Didn't want any help, just loaded up his car and headed up. Only reason I know he made it is via his social media. His entire incoming class is back so he was looking forward to getting back to school.
@nycdad posted:son went off to start soph year yesterday. Didn't want any help, just loaded up his car and headed up. Only reason I know he made it is via his social media. His entire incoming class is back so he was looking forward to getting back to school.
Bitter pill for dad but pretty standard. I wasn’t thrilled either the first, now that the youngest is a JR it like cya buddy stay in touch