BackstopDad32,
That is really cool and brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for telling us this!
"Now to the good part. Because of all I have learned from all of you wonderful folks I was able to save myself from looking like a jackwagon as well as turned it into a positive teaching moment. In the past I can guarantee that this would not have been the case. I would have jumped him and looked like a fool and not helping him one bit.
We talked about working hard and not just showing up. I finally was able to share my new favorite quote about life being 10% of what happens to you and the other 90% of how you react to it. Very fitting in this case. I think he also understands a little better that he and I can talk about things calmly and after the fact and I am not going to compound his misery by getting on him.
A little humble pie for father and son never a bad thing!!! Thanks to everyone for helping a father see the light and what is really important. I am by no means all the way there, but because of all of you I know my relationship with my son is only getting better and better no matter what may happen on the diamond."
It confirms what so many of us already know...
There are a lot of really, really good people who share here very unselfishly. It continues to amaze me. You all amaze me. Thank you.
Julie
quote:Originally posted by BackstopDad32:
Boy did this thread hit home for me today and just at the right time.
Backstop Jr. has been having a fine spring nothing spectacular, but really steady pitching, fielding and hitting. I think we both had forgotten how hard this game can be at times.
Today was a rough one indeed. O for 3 with first two K's of the year. Error at first base with two outs right before a homer for other team. Airmailed first on a bunt allowing two more runs to score and to top it off last out of the game as the tying run. Just to complete the day he slipped back into some of the immaturity issues allowing a couple of bad things to snowball into a horrible game. Ugh!!
Now to the good part. Because of all I have learned from all of you wonderful folks I was able to save myself from looking like a jackwagon as well as turned it into a positive teaching moment. In the past I can guarantee that this would not have been the case. I would have jumped him and looked like a fool and not helping him one bit.
We talked about working hard and not just showing up. I finally was able to share my new favorite quote about life being 10% of what happens to you and the other 90% of how you react to it. Very fitting in this case. I think he also understands a little better that he and I can talk about things calmly and after the fact and I am not going to compound his misery by getting on him.
A little humble pie for father and son never a bad thing!!! Thanks to everyone for helping a father see the light and what is really important. I am by no means all the way there, but because of all of you I know my relationship with my son is only getting better and better no matter what may happen on the diamond.
Great post!
The bolded green part of your post is related to what inspired this thread. There was a thread in the Mental Forum about the passing of Harvey Dorfman - the famed sports psychologist who has posted in these very forums in the past. His famous quote: "What are you going to do about it?" seems like a good thing for parents to encourage their kids.
Encourage them to find solutions or make adjustments and they will
Thanks to a lot of folks on this board hopefully I am positively influencing that 90% rather than negatively as in the past 
Terrific Post BSD32....
Now if I can get my husband to start thinking like that before 1B's season starts! Good thing he has his own car, no more of this
on the way home.
Now if I can get my husband to start thinking like that before 1B's season starts! Good thing he has his own car, no more of this
I never got away from it when it went bad. I started college ball 0-16 with 7 K's. At first I thought I was in over my head. My thoughts were my parents were ticked I wasn't 7th generation at my father's college over baseball. I thought had I gone there I would be succeeding at that level. All I did was fight back mentally and got over the hump.
My son (and I) were down for a couple of weeks when he was told last fall (post surgery) he wouldn't be playing this high school season. Then he decided until he didn't see his name in the lineup as DH this year no one was going to say he couldn't play. It looks like he'll be ready to play in the field.
Mental outlook can cure a lot of problems. People have made themselves sick or well with their mental outlook. A monk cured himself of gangrene with positive outlook and meditation. He should have had his leg amputated. The doctors are baffled from a medical point of view other than positive outlook and complete belief cured him.
My son (and I) were down for a couple of weeks when he was told last fall (post surgery) he wouldn't be playing this high school season. Then he decided until he didn't see his name in the lineup as DH this year no one was going to say he couldn't play. It looks like he'll be ready to play in the field.
Mental outlook can cure a lot of problems. People have made themselves sick or well with their mental outlook. A monk cured himself of gangrene with positive outlook and meditation. He should have had his leg amputated. The doctors are baffled from a medical point of view other than positive outlook and complete belief cured him.
Yes, it is really frustrating. You want it so bad, you can taste it. Then WHAM! Reality sets in.
Now this is why I like this discussion so much.
Finally got an update from Florida. Sunday was YBC's first game with the new team; sounds like it went pretty well, 2-4 with a couple RBIs (one of the outs was a warning track line shot he said he didn't elevate), a couple stolen bases, threw a couple kids out. Nice day; my response "put it in the bank, enjoy it for a bit and get back to work."
Tonight? 1-3 with two k's. 1 stolen base and he caught a kid stealing. Kinda ticked off when he called; said he faced a submariner that he had a hard time picking up. My response? "Put it in the bank, learn from it and resolve that you won't get beat that way next time."
I think that the most important thing is that you stay process focused and always commit to competing the best you can. That's really all you can do...
edit: why am I suddenly hungry for a hamburger?
Finally got an update from Florida. Sunday was YBC's first game with the new team; sounds like it went pretty well, 2-4 with a couple RBIs (one of the outs was a warning track line shot he said he didn't elevate), a couple stolen bases, threw a couple kids out. Nice day; my response "put it in the bank, enjoy it for a bit and get back to work."
Tonight? 1-3 with two k's. 1 stolen base and he caught a kid stealing. Kinda ticked off when he called; said he faced a submariner that he had a hard time picking up. My response? "Put it in the bank, learn from it and resolve that you won't get beat that way next time."
I think that the most important thing is that you stay process focused and always commit to competing the best you can. That's really all you can do...
edit: why am I suddenly hungry for a hamburger?
I have gotten frustrated in the past when my guy has gotten fewer than two hits in a game...I now have finially come to realize how much better 1 for 4 is as opposed to 0 for 4.
A multiple hit game is what makes me happy, but these days I am getting better at just taking it as it comes.
Of course if all I saw, game after game, was 0 or 1 for 4, I would revert to pulling my hair out!
A multiple hit game is what makes me happy, but these days I am getting better at just taking it as it comes.
Of course if all I saw, game after game, was 0 or 1 for 4, I would revert to pulling my hair out!
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Yes...Murphy's Law!
By the way...good to hear from you infidel.
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- "Yes, it is really frustrating. You want it so bad, you can taste it. Then WHAM! Reality sets in."
Yes...Murphy's Law!
By the way...good to hear from you infidel.
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