Coach texting son today...He thinks he messed up

What do you mean by "quit responding"?  Did he hang up?  Complete silence?  Just less questions asked?  How did the conversation end?

they were texting....then after he answered that question the coach never responded back...My son asked me what should he do, I said to send a text and say he enjoyed texting with him and hopes to hear from him in the future.

Have him call the coach to tell him that he would like to elaborate and clarify his response, and respond to the other questions. If no answer, leave a message to that end, then keep trying to reach the coach in reasonable intervals.

This sounds like a teenager anxiety issue.

The teenager sends a text and expects the "relationship" to continue indefinitely.  For example, I'll send group texts out to our team and half the players will feel the need to reply with some sort of comment and then the thing just goes on and on and on like some 13-year-old girls' slumber party. 

As an adult, that all makes me crazy.  And what your son needs to realize is, this coach is probably closer to my age than to his.  Meaning, the coach asked for information, he supplied it.  The coach had a purpose to the contact and the purpose has been served.  In the adult world, that means the conversation has ended.  If a new conversation is needed, he'll start one at that time. 

Teenagers need to understand that what they consider the norm for texting is only the norm in their little bubble world.  The rest of us live in relative sanity.

The coach asked what team he was playing for, etc.  Look for the coach at your son's games.  If he or a member of his staff is there, he's still interested.

In the meantime, your son should send E-MAIL updates of his weekly schedule and, if he's a pitcher, the games he'll throw in.  Make it easy on the coach to know where to be. 

But also bear in mind, the coach's ability to initiate contact is limited at different points along the time line by NCAA rules, so sometimes he won't respond for the simple reason that he is not allowed to.

Great post and points Midlo.

In addition, I think what your son texted back is honest and appropriate. If those are his criteria then he shouldn't have second thoughts at all.  I think your son handled it extremely well on his own.   JMO

100% agree.

Your son told the coach that he has a shoulder issue, so it could be that the rest was just being polite.

I really wouldn't worry about it, as there seems to be issues way more important and that would be what is with his shoulder? Did he have that MRI?  What was the conclusion?

My understanding is that coaches prefer to text because that way the parents stay out of the process and they know who is answering them. 

I agree  that your son answered the questions truthfully and honestly and that is how it should be, but you can help him to prepare himself for situations like this.

Great post Midlo.

thanks everyone....

TPM...I got my Mondays wrong he goes this Monday at 9am...I assume it wont get read that day...Not real sure as its being done at a different location....We will see...

OH TPM you said honesty was the best policy...thats what I told him if anyone ever asks about his shoulder...

again thanks everyone...

Lot of truth in that post, MidloDad!

Something to keep in mind...especially this time of year...for every one of those texted tete-a-tetes, that coach is probably on the end of dozens of others each day and night.That's not to suggest that a coach shouldn't give each exchange his undivided attention; but,after he finishes with one, he's probably got quite a few more ahead of him.

Just be glad you're not the coach's parent. I wish I had a dollar for every phone call I've had interrupted with my son the recruiter when a recruit called or texted him! 

Just be glad you're not the coach's parent. I wish I had a dollar for every phone call I've had interrupted with my son the recruiter when a recruit called or texted him! 

Ha!  Great point!  

Prepster,

Just so long as Robert takes our Cardinals guys' calls, he can let all others go to voice mail with my blessing!

MRI done today hopefully will know results tomorrow...Also more texts from coaches today...so I guess he did ok...