Dads and Moms

Will,

Great topic - makes you reflect on yourself.

Mom has always rooted for the boys - intensely but always quietly. And she has really learned alot about the the game IMO. I enjoy discussing the games with her - especially as they are in progress.

I coached for a long time - from the 5 year olds to the 18 year olds. I always did what I could so I could avoid coaching my own kids and their teams. Just never felt right about that.

Up until they were about 13 - I did help both of them with the physical and mental part of the game. After that - I backed off the physical part.

Now - when they feel like talking about the game - it is almost always about the mental part of the game. Situational stuff - hitting approach etc...

I still root for them - and I have always ignored all the people who said they suck - or who rooted against them.

I think we all really enjoy the game - and we always root for our sons - but we do it quietly. If we are really happy or excited about something they or their team achieved - we wait until we get home.

Then we yell and scream and celebrate.

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Originally posted by PGStaff:
Dad04,

Are those brats? If so, geesh, those are some extra big brats!

Probably a big Boudin' grilled up by our Cajun Tails tailgating group in Lafayette. They always cook up plenty, if anyone wants to stop by before and/or after the game.

FO it's not me but a mere shapshot of the Ragin Cajun pre-game ambiance. There is life outside the lines for those inclined.

I would like to take one of them Boudins - stuff some mozzerella in it and create a "Boudinella". A little twist on that rajin cajun meal.

Um Um good!

Finally, now we're into the most important stuff! Hate to do any promoting, but had the best veal marsala ever yesterday! Some place called Pietro's (or something like that) in Manhattan.

PG,

Pietros - been around a long time.

The secret to their Veal Marsala:

It isnt Veal

Its Moose.

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TG posted: I made such a horse's behind of myself when my daughter was ten, coaching basketball. Ever heard a pin drop at a basketball game? I never yelled at her again.

Girls sports are different. Effective coaches talk to girls.

its,

Moose Marsala does have a certain ring to it.

Woody, Woody, Woody, I forgot that I have exposed myself.

My heart jumped in my throat there for a second when I saw your post.

Aw, naw, he's fixin' to put a picture of me in there...............

Don't do it, I'd never get back in the ladies lounge again.

PGStaff, it looks like the Cedar Rapids showcase worked out real well for my friend.

I owe you a Moose Marsala sandwich.

When you live and die at every game based on how your son does its just not alot of fun. And your missing out on alot imo. I have always lost myself in the game. I go and watch my son in the summer and fall. I pull for all the kids and I enjoy watching the games. I cheer for the other teams players if I see them make a great play or do something special. I dont believe in coaching up players "mine" as well during a game or after a game ends. They have a coach and its his job to run it like he sees fit. My wife watches quietly and cheers for all the kids when they do something good. She has never said anything to anyone on field for any reason. And neither have I. Whats the point of doing this? When Im coaching in HS I never say anything to our players when they are in the field or at the plate. I have not done my job as a coach if I have to coach them while they are trying to play the game. Thats why we have practice and a dugout.

Parents that coach up their kids during a game are just wrong. There is no other way to put it. Players who direct anything towards the stands or dugout during the game are not focusing on playing the game and there is no place for it.

I believe that parents should go to the game to support their team. They should cheer for all the kids on their team. They should leave their kid alone and let him play the game. Coaches that coach their own son should do everything possible to leave him alone and let him play the game. Coach him up later if you have to. Better yet let the assistant coaches address whatever issues that need to be addressed at practice.

Believe it or not parents that wear thier emotions on their sleeve hurt their kids ability to focus. I sat and watched a game with Itsinthegame one day. His sons team was playing my sons team. As we were talking his son was hitting. He never broke the conversation while he was at bat and he just let him play the game. I did the same thing and this did not go unnoticed by me. I could tell right then and there that he did it the right way. His son plays with alot of intensity and really gets after it. So does mine. They dont need anyone to tell them anything while they are playing the game. Especially a couple of old dads sitting in the stands that couldnt hold their jocks when it comes to the game. JMHO

great post CM! Gee I want to print out that middle part and show it to a few people. We have probably all noticed players who do better when the big mouth parent is not in attendance.

Also, good reflection that all these games (in my case just beginning HS) are rungs in a ladder. Enjoy it while you can.

Maybe this isn't the right approach, but we have pointed out when the pros make errors, they still get paid. It's part of the game. You want to strive for better, but it happens.

Neither my wife or I are very good "fans". Both of us tend to let our emotions out, definitely not a good way to appreciate a game. I came up with a little game of our own that has helped tremendously. We try to match the parents to the players of the opposing team. You can observe alot by watching (kudos to Yogi)

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Originally posted by FormerObserver:
Woody, Woody, Woody, I forgot that I have exposed myself.

My heart jumped in my throat there for a second when I saw your post.

Aw, naw, he's fixin' to put a picture of me in there...............

Don't do it, I'd never get back in the ladies lounge again.

Don't worry FO. When it comes to Men in Red there were two obvious choices...Bad ol' Beazulbub or sweet ol' Santa. Here's your pass back into the Ladies Lounge...




Happy sledding FO!

After this thread started, I went home the other night and ask my oldest. "Have you ever wondered why I don't yell instructions (or whatever) to you during your games like a lot of the dads". He said, "because it would distract me" "why?, dumb question" Then I ask, "what do other kids think when thier dad's yell at them". "they hate it, call em a**holes in the dugout" Then I asked " what about the dads'/moms that yell at all the kids" he said, "no big deal".

To be honest; all three of his answers surprised me.

What I expected:
Question 1: It would embarass me.
Question 2: They are used to it.
Question 3: Idiots


btw.. my son won't bring friends over to watch football cuz I am ballistic, a freak, a nutball, my neighbors make fun of me. Think something horrible is happening in my house

Videoed a basketball game when one of my boys was about 10.

Got home to watch the little critter and there was this a$$ screaming his head off at his son on the playback.

Really ugly.

Have you ever heard yourself on one of your son's video's?

That's when I learned to keep my mouth shut.

Most of the time.

I quit using the video, too.