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I need some advice about our coach...

S socalrhpdadMember
My son is a 10th grader and is on the varsity squad (played JV last year). This is our first time around the varsity coach so he is trying to get used to coach. Our concern is lack of information from coach. We had a game yesterday and the boys were given one day notice. The other team had the game posted on there web site for a week. the last minute phone call are not new. This time it was just irritating. When asked when the uniforms and fundraising stuff (team logo clothing) would be in the coached replyed let me see you play baseball first, implying that the boys were not playing well, but coach did not want to hold a practice for over two weeks due to the holidays. parents have asked if he needs help but he always says no. Any ideas? what should we as parents do.
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right arm of zeusright arm of zeus1,000+ posts
Player talks to coach, Possibly assistant coach.
then parent talk to coach at least twice to give coach a chance to explain.
IF parent not happy, parent talk to AD then principle and so on.

As a coach i hope you talk to me first, as a parent i would want to know what the heck is going on. Poor coaching for not informing, i feel bad for you. best wishes.
fenwaysouthfenwaysouth10,000+ posts
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Any ideas? what should we as parents do.


I agree with floridafan. It would be best to smile and do nothing. You obviously have a talented son playing varsity as a sophomore. Your son needs to figure out the best way to handle the situation. If a situation escalates where parental involvment is needed then you step in. Those situations could be injuries, potential injuries or grades.
RJMRJMHSBaseballWeb member since 2007
I have a piece of advice. Change your location from Chula Vista to San Diego or Southern California. If your son's coach happens to visit this board he may figure out who you are, pass judgement and take it out on your son. Right or wrong, the coach makes out the lineup.
P Pedropere100+ posts
You may just have a lazy coach. That would be too bad, but they are out there. I don't think they all start out that way, but some don't know how to coach their sports, and over the years they descend into the "how am I going to win with these bums? " syndrome.

They almost never say it exactly that way, but if they're not practicing when they should, and have lost the belief that they and their team can accomplish something meaningful each and every season, their players won't have that belief either, and its pretty difficult to have productive seaons.

Let's hope your observations are just isolated incidents. If they are not, you and other parents can reflect on whether there is anything you can do, and whether it is "worth it" to attempt it. I think that usually it is not.
S seventhinningstretch10+ posts
This is a shame that this happens. The one thing to remember and or realize the highschool level is just one part of a players development and future. It's up to you as parents to guide him through his next several years with solid advice and strong support no matter what. Then focus on the summer and fall travel and showcase teams. These will give you the abaility to have your son noticed if he wants to make it to the next level. Do not burn bridges it's a small community and you never know......
Tx-HuskerTx-Husker1,000+ posts
Since he's a sophomore, I would stay quiet and lay low. Tell your son to talk to one of the Jrs/Srs he trusts that have been around to coach to understand things. Then I would say work out a lot on your own if the team isn't working out. If he's ready and performs, he's in good shape. If he takes the approach of only doing what the coach tells him to do, only practicing when the coach schedules one, my bet is things won't go well. He may be just trying to figure out who wants it bad and works vs who doesn't. Good luck.
C CaBB1,000+ posts
Take the high road and keep your mouth shut and wallet open! Most likely no amount of complaining will change the way the coach operates. Tell your son to play his hardest in high school and just enjoy it for what it is. HS ball may not be perfect but it may be what you're stuck with.

My advice, get him on a great summer team, one that gives you no reason to complain, and enjoy this time. It goes all too fast.

There are some great high school coaches out there but if your son has one thats less than great you can nicely offer to help in any way he may need. If he shoots down any offers of help better just grin and bear it.
Blue10Blue10500+ posts
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Originally posted by smalltownmom:
I'm not understanding something. According to a post from a NorCal parent, practices in Ca start 2/7. I wasn't even aware practices were starting anywhere, let alone a game. Is this HS ball, or some type of travel ball?


Most HS teams in SoCal start playing winterball as a club team...totally legal.
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