Bizzimom, if your son is an '09 and has been told he is on the "narrow list," that is a good thing. Make sure to send his spring and summer playing schedules to the recruiting coordinator so the school can get a good look at your son this year.
You are wise to be casting a wide net yourselves and you are right -- it'll all play out after various tourneys and showcases.
No need to be stressed right now. There's plenty of time for that later!
Best wishes!