Sitting home listening to webcast of our HS football team in a do-or-die district battle (can't be there, but JP, sister and Mom are). Want to share a story; get reaction -- on the heels of Coach2709's post:
- Mid-May this year, JP a freshman on varsity baseball team.
- HS football team running intense Spring football program.
- HS football coach counting on JP playing this season.
- Baseball team knocked out of playoffs.
- HS Football coach assumes JP will enter Spring Football.
- JP (NOT mom and dad) tells coach no: It's full-pad tackle. Couple young men have broken bones already. Summer baseball coming. Doesn't want to risk injury with no time to recover. Passion is baseball.
- Tells coach he WILL do conditioning, be there all the time -- just no full contact. That's deal-breaker.
- Coach calls me. LONG conversation. Believes he can get me to change JP's mind (This IS Texas HS football, after all
- Coach's view: The school needs him. We have plans.
- Coach's dilemma: I CAN'T make an exception. If he doesn't play Spring football, I can't let him be on the team. Not fair to other kids.
- No argument. JP understands; so do we. Hurts, but we all saw it coming. No hard feelings; move on. Root for team from sidelines.
- Summer comes and goes. PG, USA Baseball, etc. JP gets pretty good in-state D1 offer; declines.
- Shares news with football coach -- hoping it helps him understand why he made the decision he did.
Back to present. I have no real idea what happens next. My boy says he's done with football, so that's probably the end of it. But I expect football HC to change his mind about making an exception for Spring full-tackle and urge him to play.
But NOW ... there's Jupiter in October. He went this year, fully intends to go next two years.
Here's the thing: IT STINKS.
It stinks for my son, because he's missing out on Friday Night Lights in Texas, being with his buddies, making memories -- even though he's doing it with eyes wide open.
It stinks for the team and the school, because they could use him.
When it's all said and done, we all make choices. Sometimes there's just NOT an answer that works for everyone. What we shouldn't do, I believe, is try to have our cake and eat it, too -- like the cheerleader in Coach 2709's story. That's not fair to anyone.
I read a book once, on abortion, titled "The Clash of Absolutes."
Sometimes that's just how it is.
But damn.