Your kid either shows up and performs or he doesn't. If a player is having a hard time in college they either handle it or they don't. Coaches can't be worried about having a good support system or if his family will be there for him when he's in a slump or struggling in school. They need guys who will help them win. That's not to say they're heartless and don't care, but rarely do they not recruit players because of their parents. Coaches are worried about winning, keeping their players eligible, and them not getting in trouble. To think a top 25 school would not recruit a kid because his mother is obnoxious or his father is loud, cold, or arrogant is silly.
A friend of mine is a great guy until he arrives at the field and “Hulks” into the parent from hell. Aside from all the negative behavior he was driven by injuries that stopped his dream.
He was living through his kids. It didn’t stop a ranked HA D3 from recruiting the oldest kid. It didn’t stop a top ranked P5 D1 from recruiting the second kid. It didn’t stop a MLB team from drafting him.
There’s a sliding scale based on talent versus behavior. In the case if this dad the HA D3 was also receiving mid major offers. He was a top D3 recruit. The second son was a PG top 100 recruit.