Originally Posted by Back foot slider:
jacjacatk: I agree to some extent, however the option should not be don't play HS baseball, or you HAVE to confront an unreasonable coach....and yes for upperclassmen, maybe they have a better standing to confront, but still confronting that type of individual is useless in most cases. Here are two cases:
(2) Scenarios:
1) BFS Jr. is 2017 (LHP) - very gifted, has already been offered, and most coaches know the amount of work / effort he has put in to get there. He is playing Varsity as Frosh this season. Last week HC walks up to me and asks "is Jr. good for 50 pitch outing in preseason game" (he could have asked Jr., but wanted to know if he threw a bullpen over the weekend)...I answered "yes he's good, his last bullpen was 4 days ago". He replies "great" walks away, then comes back and says "I want to clarify 50 pitch game does not include warm ups...you still good with that?"... my reply "yes, I figured that did not include warm up". Background on coach: was National HS player of year his in early 90's, played at U of Texas where All American pitcher two years, drafted twice, pitched professionally 5 years making it to AAA level Oakland A's. Very fortunate to have him as Jr.'s HC.
2) fellow summer club teammate of BFS Jr. plays at a different HS, also gifted pitcher, where the parents spend a tremendous amount of time / money to help develop son's craft. Fall off-season baseball, practices consist of running poles, soft toss, and hitting...no throwing, and no off season program for pitchers (5A Texas HS). Coach has been there a long time, not huge amount of success, has a do it my way attitude, not very approachable....I have coached clinics with him at several DIII schools in the summer...nice guy away from the field. I encouraged the players' parents to have their son approach the coach, and see if he can mix in some bullpen work, or throwing program, rather than running poles most of the practice. Coaches reply: made the team run extra poles, for "questioning" the coach...now he's on his bad side.
Moral of the story: while I agree that most adults are mature individuals who are approachable for the most part, there are those who just are not.
If there are adults in charge of children (and for this discussion, I'd include at least HS underclassmen) who aren't "mature and approachable", they shouldn't be in charge of children, and I wouldn't allow my children to play for coaches like the second you describe. Well, actually, my HS son is mature enough to make that decision for himself, and I suspect he'd choose not to play for that coach, but either way.
Now, does that suck that someone like that can force you into having to make that decision? Sure, but welcome to the real world. If my son has to learn that lesson a little earlier than most, that's tough, but he'll survive. And he'll be a better man for having faced the issue head on.
Note, again, that I'm not talking about trivialities here. This isn't about what haircuts are allowed, or jewelry, or something else insignificant. This is about someone endangering the health of a kid, and I'm not going to teach the kid that the best way to deal with that is to try to deceive the coach in order to avoid the problem. Just have a frank discussion about it, and part ways if everyone can't get on the same page.