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Originally posted by MIPitchDad:
He is very disappointed in this move and doesn't understand why he is being penalized. I suggested that he first tell the coach that he is happy to play anywhere they ask, but to also ask if he still has the opportunity to compete for a middle infield spot (he'd also like to play 2nd base).
Is this good advice? Should he instead just be quiet and do what he is asked without question?
Do yourself a favor and get over it. Put it in a box and bury it NOW. Do not discuss right or wrong, what's fair what's not with your son. Becuase it's pointless and counter produtive. Any conversations at home, regarding a coaches decision will only exacerbate the perceived problem. The only thing your son needs to do, as soon as possible, grasp the fact that he's still playing. And rejoice.
The simple reality of your concern is if he contacts the coach to discuss anything, there's at least a 50/50 chance that the coach will assume that your son is being put up to this questioning by YOU. At this point rational thinking is out the door. Are you willing to risk zero playing time by playing this card, for the ill perceieved notion that this would be character building.
I understand you want your son to be able to build character by expressing his disapointment. And your intentions for him are good. Your encouraging him "Talk to the coach", " This is what you need to do"," This is up to you","Handle it" "If you have a problem take it up with the coach" " He'll respect you for voicing your concerns". This is all well and good. As stated earlier, if the coach feels that your son is being directed by you, sitting on the bench will start looking good. He'd be wise to start building his character through his acceptance of things he cannot change and to learn that "He can control only what he has control over".
For the naysayers. Here's the Catch 22. What kid, let alone a HS freshman would approach a coach, questioning a coaching decision without first speaking with his parents. Conversly what coach would assume a kid was speaking without direction from his parents
Pure in simple this survival mode for the coach. Nothing good will come from this. The coach has a job to do. He's trying to manage 20+ kids. He cannot lend an ear to your sons feelings. If he does he's screwed. by a multiple of 20
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