Too Much Concern for No reason

TR - you speak the truth!!!

Guilty! Something I'm working on though.

Peace out

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That's it TR!



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I notice many parents/posters worrying about other parent/posters. LET THE DAD BE A DAD -- and stop worrying about things you cannot change.

Just enjoy their progress.

I see it this way:

I notice many players worrying about their parents ever increasing waistlines, bald spots, arthritis,etc---that is all well and good but many of these posters have parents that are not yet in retirement.

My advice to you ,for what it may be worth, is simple--let the parents play- in most cases,they have not yet reached the first stage of Social Security payments -LET THE Parents be Parents - as a player stop worrying about things you cannot control or change.

Just enjoy their regression

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Originally posted by SultanofSwat:
I notice many parents/posters worrying about other parent/posters. LET THE DAD BE A DAD -- and stop worrying about things you cannot change.

Just enjoy their progress.

It does seem to happen around here from time to time.

Peace out

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Originally posted by workinghard:

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Originally posted by SultanofSwat:
I notice many parents/posters worrying about other parent/posters. LET THE DAD BE A DAD -- and stop worrying about things you cannot change.

Just enjoy their progress.

It does seem to happen around here from time to time.

Peace out

While I haven't been following as closely lately...methinks you miss the point of most of those types of posts. For parents (I am one of them) who have been through the HS->college->pro transition...we just realize all of that fretting we did when our sons were early in HS or even before HS was wasted energy.

Kind of funny how virtually 100% of those who have been there, done that...will tell you to keep it fun...and Dad?...don't be such a "Dad"...all of the time.

Stop and smell the roses that are in front of you right now...lest you might miss some mighty fun times and you may cause junior to miss 'em too.

I kind of think that was the point of TR in this thread too.

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Originally posted by justbaseball:
we just realize all of that fretting we did when our sons were early in HS or even before HS was wasted energy.

So, now you fret about other parents? Be fret-free.

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So, now you fret about other parents? Be fret-free.

Nope, just explaining the posts.

If you wanna end up on the trash heap of unhappy parents like most of the others who behave like 'dads-being-dads,' go right ahead. Been there, seen it, its ugly for both dad and junior in the end.

JB,

As I stated after TR posted, I was one of those guilty parents, needing to relax and enjoy.

I also said Swat was correct as well, that there are parents a touch concerned about others a little too much at times.

Didn't miss either point as far as I'm concerned.
If I did, shame on me.

Peace out

I know you did...sorry...was more responding to the other guy.

its,
I resemble that remark.

Just trying to enjoy my regression considering the alternative.

OK TR when's a good time to begin worrying?

So TR--are you saying then that if my 13u is hitting 81 on the gun and running a 7.4 60 I should not worry???

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Originally posted by texdex:
So TR--are you saying then that if my 13u is hitting 81 on the gun and running a 7.4 60 I should not worry???

only if you're the one with the gun and stopwatch

I wasn't even there when he was being "timed". But do agree, seriously, with TR that even as mine has gotten older (from 9 to 13) I take it less seriously, step back, and enjoy it more as he progresses. No longer live and die with the result, as long as effort is there, and in reality less concerned with teh "measurables" than with his improvement and enjoyment. Also, the fact that he now has a coach who knows what he is doing (or at least appears to) has also helped

ok cball the answer is============== never begin to worry---you son doesn't

thanks
I was beginning to worry you wouldn't reply

I wasn't worrying but now I'm worrying that TR might not be correct so should I worry about that or worry that my son isn't developing as fast as he should.

I'm back to not worrying. TR is right.

I'm beginning to worry about some of you.

I have two children ages 2 and 4. I watch them and their friend play and most of them without ever being told how to swing and throw just do so naturally. Their "machanics" look as good or better than most of the freshman that show up to hs.

so stop worrying

You won't stop worrying. Oh what you worry about will change. But you will never stop worrying. You will learn what is important enough to worry about and what is not. And then that will eventually change as well. For some its I hope he makes All Stars. For others I hope he makes the HS team. Then maybe I hope he makes All Conference. Or for others I hope he gets an offer from _______. And so on and so on. But these things will come and go and you will find yourself worrying about something totally different as the years go by.

Why? Because our children are the most important things in our lives. If its important to them it becomes important to us. We learn and we move on just like they do. We realize that the things we worried about yesterday , last week , last month , last year - today just dont seem quite as important anymore. We have moved on to something else to worry about. Are they happy in their new job? Is their relationship with their spouse ok? Are they happy? Are they safe? Did they get there ok? Why didnt he call I hope he made it there ok? On and on and on.

My mom is 76 years old. She still worries about me. She still calls to check on me and make sure I am ok. Thats what parents do. Yes some worry more than others. Yes some worry too much about things that dont seem quite as important to other people. My advice for what its worth. Try to focus on the things that will matter long after the bat and glove are no longer used. Am I setting a good example for my child? Am I a good parent? Do I offer support and advice when needed? Am I building a solid relationship with my child that will last the test of time?

Everything else will fade with time. Yes its important right now so you will worry. Some more than others. But that is only natural imo. Let it be fun. Enjoy the time. And try not to worry. Even though you have every right to do so. JMHO

I once asked a pediatrician if I was being neurotic. She responded "Neurotic parents are parents that care. I have far too many that don't so be as neurotic as you want."