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Here is an article I found in the Sacramento Bee newspaper this morning. I think every high school baseball player would be well served to read it, and consider how their "space" could affect their college and other prospects.

http://www.sacbee.com/content/news/story/14261769p-15075274c.html

July 1st is right around the corner. How would you want a college coach to think of you? What would he think if he viewed your space?
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The Myspace issue (if this is what the article is about..I couldn't link either to the article) is a reminder to our sons that the recruiting thing is about marketing yourself to a degree. At least this is how I see it. You put your best foot forward (hopefully it is from the heart) and you'll be okay. Parents need to be active advisors in how to best accomplish the "best foot" profile: clear and easy to understand cell phone voice mail greeting; "clean" email address; innocuous myspace.com site; ability to field phone calls with reasonable maturity (after July 1..we're working on this one currently!), etc.

It's all part of accepting that this is a potential career..growing up..all of that..not easy lessons...but we owe it to our sons to help them out with this stuff.
I'll try to fix the problem if I can. I did cut and paste the article, but maybe you have to sign up to be able to read it no matter how it is pasted.

What the article talked about was use of MySpace.com by Law Enforcement, Educators, Future Employers, etcetera for investigating the background of teens and other young adults in this day and age. It talked about how many good kids have stuff on their myspace page that would, and does, get them in a lot of trouble. It also talked about how some employers are checking MySpace to learn as much as they can about new employees they are considering hiring.

Now, think of it in recruiting terms. Say your son is a legitimate candidate for a scholarship at a great university with an outstanding baseball program. The coach, as part of his regular due diligence before offering to your son, does a check on MySpace to see if he can learn anything about his future student/athlete. Low and behold...your son's profile shows pictures of him drinking at a party (plenty of those on myspace), or worse, smoking dope (there are those pictures on there too). The article talked about how one law officer found a picture of a student with a bong, and it led to his arrest on drug possesion charges. Let's say your son, in his profile, indicates that he's used 3 or 4 different illegal drugs (I personally know a kid who has this on his page, and he plays for a major D-1 football team)and likes to get blind drunk from time to time.

What do you think the impression of your son will be if someone check his MySpace page? Have you ever gone to your kids page to see how they're portraying themselves to the world? If he has information on myspace or other similar websites that portrays him in an unfavorable light, you'll never know who passed on him for reasons that you'll likely never hear. Too often, our kids don't realize that the perception they give to others really does matter in the opportunities they are afforded.
And another thing to think about is their cell phone greeting and/or email address. If they'd convey a bad first impression, change them now.

Us old folks just don't understand how cool they are, but they don't understand that we still make the decisions about their future. Education or employment, chances are basically 100% that some old dude who has no sense of humor (from a teenager's perspective) will make decisions about the opportnities they have that affect their lives going forward.
Ken White's cursor slides past beer bottles, lingerie and profanity to linger over a dark-haired teen with one hip thrust out and her midriff bared.
"If that was my 17-year-old, she'd be grounded," White mutters, before clicking on through the younger kids who scatter images of their faces, favorite songs and occasional misdeeds in glittery type across the Internet.

For White, a Placer County sheriff's deputy charged with reaching out to middle schools, the daily forays on the wildly popular MySpace.com provide a window into a world kids think of as their own.


He scans for the faces of youngsters whom teachers or principals are worried about. He reads up on hobbies, to break the ice during one-on-one talks. He watches for party announcements, for angry outbursts, for bullying.
"Usually, first thing in the morning, I'm on MySpace," often for an hour or two a day, he said.

While it's hard to find a teen who hasn't been warned about online predators, some have no idea that their hottest virtual hangout is also attracting police, coaches and principals. Scholarship committees or college entrance screeners may be checking in, too, according to privacy watchdogs.

"Part of me says that's kind of not fair," said Lilly Bechtel, 13, an eighth-grader at Brannan Middle School in Sacramento. She can see why authorities might be interested, but still, "MySpace is a place where you should be able to be yourself."

That's why she's there.

The free Web site has built a huge following among teens, young adults and musicians, offering a ready-to-personalize space where users can easily display photos, songs, videos, blogs and hundreds of "friends," each with a photo and link to that friend's page.

"It's all you," said Bechtel, an unabashed "MySpace addict" who decorates her site with Alice in Wonderland figures, a sparkling Elmo and a soundtrack by German pop singer Cascada. Bechtel said she's there all the time, catching up with friends, fielding chain letters and corresponding with her dad while he's overseas. Like many others, she has sidestepped MySpace's minimum age requirement of 14, signing up with a birthdate that would make her 100. Her parents know she exaggerated her age to use the service.

Older generations sometimes compare MySpace and other social networking sites with the telephone, but the new methods are far more powerful than that, said Elisheva Gross, a social and developmental psychologist at UCLA who studies online communication among adolescents.

"It's not only the telephone, it's the mix tape and the yearbook entry and the locker decorations and the diary … all rolled into one," she said. "There's this combination of self-expression and friendship networking, which is understandably incredibly appealing."

Last month, MySpace drew 38.4 million unique visitors, far outdistancing sites like Blogger, Yahoo! Groups and Xanga, according to Nielsen//NetRatings. The market research company said that overall, the top 10 social networking sites grew 47 percent based on number of unique visitors in the past 12 months.

The same features that fans love are a gold mine for law enforcement.

"I already have a bank full of gangsters," said Rayann VonSchoech, a community services officer with Sacramento Police Department's gang suppression unit. "Once I get to one, it's very easy to get to others."

Using names or nicknames drawn from arrests or investigative work, she's bookmarked around 30 MySpace pages to check every few days, looking for who's carrying a gun, who's threatening to disrupt a concert, and whose face goes with which street name.

"It's a huge tool, a great tool," said Sacramento Police Detective Sam Blackmon, who estimates Internet-related clues contribute to about 10 percent of the city's gang arrests.

Whether officers are dealing with serious crimes or with youngsters whose worst offenses are inappropriate insults, they travel a similar investigative path.

Start with a name or an event or an area. Find a person connected to it and then drill down, through friends and friends of friends, visiting their sites, riffling through their pictures, reading the correspondence they display publicly, and making printouts of anything incriminating.

At the middle school level, White is more likely to be looking for bullying than anything else. Deputy Ryan Berry, White's counterpart at Del Oro High in Loomis, keeps an eye out for parties that are announced to the world, letting patrol officers know where the big bashes will be.

Berry recently spotted a photo of a bong that led to a student's arrest on drug and weapons charges.

The deputies say that even when youngsters use aliases, their pictures, their friends' sites or other details often make them easy to track down. And even when a student's own site is fairly innocent, his or her face can still turn up in someone else's photo album of raunchy parties or worse, captured in embarrassing or illegal moments.

Although officers consider MySpace one of their best resources, it's just the latest in a long line of Internet sites that have been patrolled for years. Police look for stolen property on craigslist and eBay and watch for prostitutes in online personals.

In Davis, officers still are chuckling over the anonymous tip that a young woman's blog on LiveJournal.com had breathlessly recounted stealing street signs.

Around the county, news articles detail Internet-related arrests, firings or expulsions of taggers who posed with their graffiti, racists with their regalia, or underage drinkers with their bottles.

Davis publicized the street sign arrest partly to remind youngsters that they have no idea who is looking at what they put online, said police Lt. Colleen Turay. It could be parents, police or a predator.

Police and some vigilante groups look for child molesters online, and schools try to drill into youngsters the risks of revealing personal information or agreeing to meet in person. Every teen interviewed by the Bee was able to rattle off a list of things to avoid and ways to stay safe.

Yet most predators still find their victims through old-fashioned routes. The Sacramento County District Attorney's Office estimates that less than 5 percent of its cases involving *** crimes against children began with an Internet encounter.

For young people on the Net, "I think the risk of your reputation being tarnished is higher than your risk of being contacted by a predator," said Beth Givens, director of Privacy Rights Clearinghouse.

Givens worries much less about police than about employers, landlords or colleges.

"College scholarship administrators and others are known to consult these public forums and find out about an applicant," she said.

Some smaller colleges monitor MySpace in an effort to expel underage drinkers, she said, and a recent survey found that three-fourths of employers do an Internet search on applicants and one-fourth say they've eliminated applicants because of something they found.

People don't realize the risk because they may never know it happened.

"How would you know you didn't get the job because someone read your blog?" she asked. "How do you know you didn't get that apartment rental because the landlord did a quick search and found out you like to have midnight parties?"

While there have been cases of people manufacturing phony Web pages to make someone else look bad, the risk of being judged by truthful information you post yourself is all too real.

Givens' group advises anyone with strong political beliefs, unconventional habits, health issues or dangerous hobbies to use a pseudonym on the Internet.

Police urge kids to keep a lower profile online by using a MySpace feature that lets them set their site to private, readable only by those who've been given permission.

Justin Fong, 14, a Brannan Middle School eighth-grader, hadn't bothered with the privacy setting, figuring he was savvy enough to take care of himself.

That was before a reporter asked him how he'd feel about police, teachers or others reading his page. Fong thought awhile about his low-key space, with nothing unfit for adult consumption, before concluding that teachers, cousins, even parents were no problem. But police, "I don't know why, it feels kind of weird," he said.

"I'm changing it to private when I get home."
In my area, I know of one kid that lost a scholarship because of myspace... another that was suspended... One of the scary things is that a myspace can be created for someone else! There are currently NO checks and balances against this invasion! I personally know of three people who had myspace accounts and didn't even know it!
momandcpa, thanks for the info. My husband and I just printed out your comments, as well as others from this thread, to show to our son tonight. Unfortunately, it's not just what our kids post about themselves. If my son's friends say things that are inappropriate as they post comments on his page, that reflects poorly on his character as well. (what type of friends are you choosing to associate with?)
I agree, Infield08. I insisted that my son give me his password. Now, I check it almost every single day. Not sure he remembers that I have his password Smile ! What some kids consider to be a "joke" in posting can be interrupted as very serious.

I talked to a couple of moms this past week that INSISTED their sons did NOT have myspace. I knew for a fact that they did! You can delete inappropriate comments off your own page; however, once you have posted something inappropriate on someone else's page... you yourself cannot delete it!

In a neighboring town, one kid was suspended for just being in a picture with beer cans... he didn't have a beer can in his hand... he was just evidently at a party where beer was being served.
Thanks baseballtoday, for putting the SacBee article on there so everyone can easily read it.

Some parents like to check their child's MySpace page, but I'm just getting my own account, and that makes it much easier to check up on what is going on with the kids I know. It is important to know what they are putting on their page, and what friends are putting there too.

If you're in doubt about this, you haven't visited very many pages. Even the best kids can and do make bad decisions, and MySpace is a place where they can come back to haunt them in an important way.
It's no problem to go to myspace, go to the search function and find just about any person under thirty that has a computer. You can put in search parameters by names, schools, towns, and locate them, their friends, their friend’s friends, read their blogs, profiles and their personal confessions. Kinda like a high tech party line that they think us dumb old people can’t figure out. You’d be surprised what you can find ---- go ahead ---- type in a name and a zip code. The first thing you will find out is their gender preference and whether they drink or smoke. I might warn you that "myspace" doesn't have “filters” like the HSBBW.
Fungo

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