Waiting for a call that never comes...

What is his graduation year?

2020

Yes, this is normal at least in my son's experience, and many others I know.   The college coaching professional is not known for its ability to deliver on timely promises.   This drove my 17 yer old son absolutely bat shit crazy that adults couldn't remember to do what they said they were going to do.

So, your son has to help them remember.   Tell your son to pick up the phone call them, text them or email them.   Don't wait for them.   It is an opportunity for your son to take the initiative.

What level are these schools? It's very late in the game for 2020s. They are probably thinking if your son is still going to camps he doesn't have any interest and can take their time.

Low, Mid level and high D1.    Let's just say he popped a 91 at one of these camps and sits high 80s.  He has had a huge velo bump in the last 6 months after taking some time off and training his butt off.  

I will tell him to reach out.  I just keep hearing the saying "you know when you are loved."  Not getting a call seems to be the contrary to that.

Most likely they were stringing you along awaiting answers from other recruits. When those answers came back yes that was that. This isn't like a job interview and don't expect them to be professional. There won't be a call back like "I'm sorry we decided to go a different direction".

Typical College Recruiting Coach.

Good feedback, thank you.  I guess I feel better in knowing it is just how it is during this journey.  I am just the type of person that if I look someone in the eye, shake their hand, and tell them I'm going to do something;  I do it.  

Just human courtesy I figure.  It is just frustrating to see him come home pumped, wide eyed and bushy tailed.  Then when the day they said they were going to call comes and goes, to see him frustrated.

Sharpshooter1 posted:

Low, Mid level and high D1.    Let's just say he popped a 91 at one of these camps and sits high 80s.  He has had a huge velo bump in the last 6 months after taking some time off and training his butt off.  

I will tell him to reach out.  I just keep hearing the saying "you know when you are loved."  Not getting a call seems to be the contrary to that.

As someone who has been there done that, look JUCO. Don't let pride get in the way. Give your player a chance to mature.

Yep, he already met the coaches with and selected the Juco he will go to if nothing pans out.  It’s a top competitive JC.

My daughter attended an "invite only camp" and did really well.  The coaching staff wanted to talk to her/us about an offer.  They had to "talk to admin" about a few things so wanted my daughter to call at a specific time the following Tuesday to hear the exact amount of the offer.   My daughter bought the camp sweat pants, shorts and T-shirt.  Daughter called at specific time and the coach said she was on the golf course and that she would call my daughter the next evening.  That call never came.  Daughter called on Friday and coach did not answer and did not return text message.  The meaning was clear.  My daughter hit her 49th and 50th collegiate home runs against that team and afterwards took her playing pants off and wore those shorts around the field before getting on the bus.  

It probably means that your son is not the on the top of the board, and they are waiting to see if those sought more highly commit or not.  There are definitely peaks and valleys on the recruiting journey--timing is key.

On one instance, however, son's Legion coach told him that he would be hearing from a school on the first day contact was allowed. He never got the call that day or next. It turns out, the coach had two digits in son's cell number reversed. They finally called, saw him a few more times and offered. Best of luck--hope good news is forthcoming. Good that your son has a fall back plan.

All it takes is one offer. Find another D1 school that will offer and after send a short text to coaches of camps saying - Hey coach, I haven't heard from you in a while, have had a hard time getting in touch. I was up to 92 last weekend and received another offer which I am very close to accepting. I want to thank you for your considerations.

Watch how fast they scramble. Then enjoy the opportunity to tell them no or maybe don't pick up the phone. Not all bridges need to be burned, but maybe you don't get back to them right away either. Keep all options open and have son make a decision that suits his needs best. 

Ha Pa!  Although that option seems the most gratifying, that is not a character trait I want to instill in him by not calling back or communicating.    

Now what I will enjoy is if he ends up eventually playing for one of their competitors, is watching him shove against them!

This weekend is in fact a visit to one of the competitors.  It’s going to be indoors so I’m hoping he velo is up even higher after popping a couple 90s in cold weather.  

There is absolutely nothing sweeter than beating the team that 'recruited' your son but never offered.  

Don't burn bridges, do your followups, but also move on.

Sharpshooter1 posted:

Good feedback, thank you.  I guess I feel better in knowing it is just how it is during this journey.  I am just the type of person that if I look someone in the eye, shake their hand, and tell them I'm going to do something;  I do it.  

Just human courtesy I figure.  It is just frustrating to see him come home pumped, wide eyed and bushy tailed.  Then when the day they said they were going to call comes and goes, to see him frustrated.

I imagine most kids have this happen one or more times.  In my son's case, the coaches that ended up offering were always true to their word, very good men.  The other guys didn't matter in the end.  It's probably for the best that your son doesn't need to consider committing to a school coached by guys like you describe.

My son will be playing against 3 teams in the conference that heavily recruited him and couldn't pull the trigger. The school he chose never played games, never strung him along and never contacted him until they saw him at least 6 times. The last time they saw him at Showball, RC said we will be in touch soon, and true to their word they were. They offered him on that first phone call. It was so strange because the journey had been so different. His travel coach (who is young) had always said: "don't be surprised if a school comes in out of nowhere and sweeps you off your feet". And he was so right.  There is no right way for it to go. Be patient but I agree with your son calling the schools. Nothing better than the call he will make telling these laggards he's going elsewhere! Godspeed!

I'm very confused by this thread, since your son is a 2020.  Haven't all application deadlines passed and did he apply to these schools?  I don't think you can go a normal route (go to camps, hope for a call, etc) due to timing and most schools already have completed their 2020 recruiting classes.

I think your son needs to get on the phone, call these coaches, see if they have openings and get some 1 x 1 time.  Otherwise, they've probably moved on to 2021 and getting ready for the 2020 season that starts in less than a month.  I'm not sure how the application process works, if you haven't applied to these schools.

CTbballDad posted:

I don't think you can go a normal route (go to camps, hope for a call, etc) due to timing and most schools already have completed their 2020 recruiting classes.

 I'm not sure how the application process works, if you haven't applied to these schools.

He is being contacted directly on the phone by these specific coaches to come out.  They know his class.  My sons first question has been how many spots left and are they still looking for his position.  They are responding that they are.  A few schools have responded with a no.  

We are not blindly going to random camps.  These are schools that asked him specifically to come out so they can see him.

If they have a spot, they can get him in.  He has a good GPA and test score.  Chucking 90 also helps...