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Originally posted by eye:
With all due respect to your situation...and I can only imagine your son's disappointment and your concern and love for him, but at this point your son needs guidance.
You see the time to invest in your son has to be based upon his dream...if it is baseball then all the years that have gone by where he pretty much functioned at learning about baseball are over...you see the results of that method.
Your son needs you to do what every other person doees when they are trying to learn something with a degree of acumen that prepares them to compete at the highest level.
I don't know what your financial circumstances are but if you can afford it, my suggestions are as follows:
(1) Have a heart-to-heart talk with your son and find out if he really wants to compete at the next level, if the answer is yes, then you must find out if he is willing to do "whatever" is necessary to succeed...he is behind at this point.
(2) Have a heart-to-heart talk with his coach in his presence, let his coach know that your son is willing to do "whatever" is necessary to vie for a job next year...you may find out that he may not allow your son to compete any further for a position on his team...that's why you need to find out whether there is a course of action that includes the high school team.
(3) Start a search, using existing sources and the high school coach to locate a "pro" that will work with your son to do the following: evaluate his current level of talent, assess his tract to remedial parity with his peers, and develope a plan to work to a goal for each skill that needs remedial action.
(4) Set time aside for you to work with your son, even if it is just watching him practice once in a while, or to encourage him that you believe in him and are 100% behind his endeavor.
(5) Find, and sign your son up to play in as many, or whatever program that will take him that will allow him to "play"...and I mean play not bench-time.
(5) Remove all other distractions from his life, whenever he is not going to school, his other waking hours are to be completely devoted to his goal of playing at the next level
Just beause you want to treat your son as a man doesn't mean that you ignore his lack of experience in dealing with a competitive situation. He does the competing on the field, you need to provide the guidance on how to get prepared, develop the skills, and monitor the progress.
Do these things and I think your son might have a chance of playing next year as a sophomore.
__eye...said it__
Thank, but a little background here. Wes was evaluated by a professional coach almost 18 months ago. This coach played for the Astros and now coaches a travel team and at a nearby HS plus he provides training for kids in the area. Wes worked out with his travel team for several weeks. He told Wes then that while he would probably make it on some HS teams, the HS he would be attending was very competitive and that based on his skills at that time, he would need to work very hard over the next 18 months if he had a chance to make that team. In other words - he had a long way to go.
He recommended one of the coaches that worked with him, and who had played pro ball for several years, as someone that could help Wes improve. Wes started weekly batting and pitching lessons with that coach. (Wes had never pitched in LL but wanted to learn.) We also got extra coaching through a summer camp with Tom House and another summer camp at Cal State - Fullerton. Wes also joined a travel team which he played on during the Fall. I have gone to all of Wes’s games and on weekends I would help him practice and bring him to batting cages.
So Wes knew he had to work hard to come up to the level of competition required to make this team, and he did put in a lot of work. When Wes entered HS this year his private coach told him he felt Wes had the skills and ability to make the HS team. That coach had, in the 18 months he worked with Wes, become a HS coach himself. He told Wes that if Wes attended his HS Wes would make the team. Unfortunately that HS is too far away to even consider moving Wes.
Unfortunately he didn't make the cut.
In my opinion, Wes doesn’t have some of the natural skills that some kids his age have. But he does have a lot of heart and desire and his skills have improved greatly over the last 18 months. During the HS tryouts even the head coach told Wes, after one of the final try-out days, that he had done well that day
It’s hard for a parent to watch their son work so hard over 18 month to improve and still not make the team.
I don’t think it’s a good idea for me to talk to the coach with Wes. Wes is old enough to do that by him self and I encouraged him to do just that today. If he does, it will probably earn some respect from the coach.
I told him this morning that I would continue to support him in any way I can if he is willing to re-double his efforts. But I don’t want to push him. It has to be his desire, not mine, that motivates him.