Adbono offers sage advice. Hard to follow up on his post, he covered just about everything.
I always have told parents to be careful how they spend their money before college as it is expensive, it becomes even more so when they move to their own place. In my opinion, the goal should be securing a good opportunity in an affordable program, supported by academic money so that your son ( or daughter) walks away with little or no debt. It's important to do just as well in school as on the field. For most players, it is hard to tell what a freshman will be like going into his junior or senior year. Let nature take its course and stop worrying about what the other guy is doing. And make sure that your son is involved in the search process.
Follow the excellent advice given by Al, everything usually works out in the end the way it was intended.
FWIW, Josh Rudd had great interviews from coaches this season about recruiting tips. For those new to this site you can do a search here or follow him on YouTube, quarantine coaches.