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I was kind of thinking that after he went off to school, that something would click and he would be a little smarter (smarter according to Mom). Maybe it is that growing up is done in miniscule increments, and not leaps and bounds, that frustrates me. I was talking to him about his upcoming schedule and he hadnt given it a thought. He just thought that the baseball academic advisor would take care of it. I gently reminded him that his advisor up to this point wasn't the one taking classes, and that he should get a second opinion from an adivsor in his major's department.

I get yanked up sometimes because he is going to a 2 year school and there isn't any room for taking unneeded classes or the wrong classes. Time is short.

I also get yanked about him not calling or emailing me except when he needs something. (Perhaps that 'growing up' that I referred to earlier in this post.) Guess I'm feeling left out.

There is so much that I want to 'do' for him, I can't. I just want him to find success at his college, thanks for letting me ramble.
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Yourbasicmom

Have you been listening worm in on my phone calls with my son. I have heard "I forgot" till I could scream. pull_hair
Fortunately we were able to register for next semester online, his advisor gave him a worksheet to track his credits for an AA last semester. I brought that home with me and a catalog listing of courses.
So he and I did the hour long argument of "what do you want to take". noidea His biggest thing was not to many classes on game days. We got it all worked out (I think). Wink

I also know how you feel on the only time he calls is if he needs something.... usually money. greenjump

I too thought he would be this smart, organized, thoughtful, and mature adult by now. fish

But you know.... now that I think of it he is still my hero!! Smile

Just wish he would "grow up"! kidding

Lori
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YBM

You are "bang on" with this:
growing up is done in miniscule increments
They are finding out who they are right now.
They don't need (or want for the most part)to be hovered over and be monitored from afar by us. Let them make a few mistakes and learn how to organize/prioritze their time. They will figure it out. I'm sure of it.

It's not rambling....it's FACT.

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By the time you learn how to play the game...
You can't play it anymore ~ Frank Howard
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YBM
You are not the only one to experience this. I am sure your Mom felt the same way about what you were doing when you were that age...I know my Mom did. As corny is it may sound "You can lead a horse to water but he can't make him drink". You just have confidence that you raised him right, he is going to make some mistakes, but he has to make mistakes to learn..it is all part of the growing up process. Slowly but surely you are going to learn to let go, it is a daily process for me. I struggle with it sometimes, I think all mothers do.

My own mother taught me a lot about this process, I left home when I was 19 and had to finish putting myself thru school. She said that she always knew in her heart that I was going to survive, because she raised me that way. She told me that she had to let me find my way in the world and become my own woman.

GO NAVY!!!

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