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In just a few weeks, some of your boys will begin their first college baseball season. I know that the following has been said sometime ago in another post, but thought I would just give some encouragment.

I remember a year ago October, going to watch son's fist fall scrimmage. I entered the stadium and saw him in his uniform for the first time and cried. I was so proud! And he looked good in purple! The second time I went up, first home series, I entered the stadium and saw him in his home jersey and I cried, I was so proud. I remember the first time I saw him blow it, I cried then too, but out of frustration because he had not done well and I saw he was hurting.
Those are just an example of some emotions that you will encounter along the way. But remember how high or low you will be feeling, so will your player.
There will be wins, there will be losses, there will be strike outs and errors,walks, home runs, double plays, mental mistakes, sitting on the bench. There will be phone calls after the wins and no phone calls after the losses. There will be times when he wants to talk and times he doesn't. There will be no rides home with him like in LL or HS to discuss what went right, what went wrong. He has coaches who will do that.
Bottom line will be, he will be running the show, he will dictate when he needs advice and when he doesn't. It's important to remember it's your job to LISTEN, as hard as it will be, it's time to let him go forward.

I often think it's harder for the dads than moms. After all, they were the coach, instuctors at one time. They don't call the pitches anymore, they can't give the sign when to swing. Now, in our house, dad's role during a game is to "talk" to the pc, gametracker or TV, or pace behind the stands as son is behind in the count, walks a batter. He becomes the Head Coach at our house, saying should have done this should have done that. He has even been so stressed he had to go to bed, slept through a few games. But when son calls all he does is listen.

This is a nerve racking time, so much anticipation of the season to come. If you feel it, imagine how they feel. Some of us who have been there are here to share your joy, your frustration Before you know it you will turn around and say, "first season is over" and then before you know it, the next season is just about to begin. Smile

Best of luck to all your players. Most importantly, no matter how the game goes, enjoy every minute. 14
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Don't think I feel anxious or nervous about his first season....his fractured wrist seems to have curtailed a lot of those emotions....we are just concentrating on recovery....one day at a time....but I know when he does start playing again....all of the emotions you described....they'll be there....thanks TPM for a very good post.

(purple with white cleats...no comment Smile )
man TPM your post brought back so many memories. Great advice for any freshman parent. There are certainly going to be an emotional roller coaster ride and never ever forget how fast it goes. My son made his home debut against Miami with the bases loaded and I thought my heart was going to jump out of my chest.Now it's already his junior year and I look back on the last 2 and wonder where they went.
Oh my gosh....you mean I can't be myself anymore??

Thanks so much for "schooling" this freshman's mom. I can only imagine how emotional I'll be when he takes the mound as a college pitcher for the first time. He has dreamed of this day since LL. It's gonna be AWESOME!!

Oh well...won't have to wait much longer!! February 1st is just around the corner.

Thanks again for the great post for us "rookies". Later,,,RSPM 14
TPM,
I enjoyed your first season memory for the newest of college players & parents.
This dad didn't fret about son's first pitch or those after, but mom was about to stress out pull_hair during the early season mound appearances. I knew he had worked hard for his chance, asked God for strength, had confidence with his pitches and would give credit to his coaches & teammates. This dad's concern for a college baseball son was keeping up with class commitments given long practices, long road trips, long poker nights, etc. Keeping on course so he could continue to compete was the issue. The discipline to manage time for studies is priority over the game, period!!!

goodGood luck to all freshmen collegiate baseball players as they enter their first spring competition. For the parents, sit back & enjoy! ole
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Gosh, I couldn't have described it any better than TPM's post.

In HS, they had their spot for every game and in college you're never sure if they'll be on the field or not from one game to the next that first year. It definately is a roller coast ride! To see him on the bench for the first time in his life was heartbreaking but you eventually learn that this is a new ballgame and you learn to go with the flow. I remember my son being pulled from a game after one inning and one at bat when he didn't continue to 2nd base. He said he knew the kid at 1st was really fast and didn't feel he could make it to 2nd but on the bench he went. The coach sent a sr. over to ask him if he knew why he was sitting out the rest of the game. He took it better than his Dad and I but that's college ball. You learn not to expect that things will play out like they did in HS. And like TPM says, do not expect a call after a bad game 'cause they don't want to talk yet. Eventually you'll hear all about it but not right away.

It really is so different than HS but exciting all the same.
My son is used to sitting and at 16 in his Elite programs he became a pitcher only. His choice so he sits until his rotation comes up. He just waits his turn and if he blows it and the coach asked for the ball he goes and sits some more.
I have learned to take an interest in other players and the team as whole. HS and City AAA ball was great because he never sat but we only really cared about his pitching so it has never bothered us.
I must have missed this first time around. Very nice post TPM.

One of our moms here on HSBBW shared with me how she felt the first time she saw her son in a baseball uniform. The emotion - the pride - the joy - the tears. My son attends a JUCO and they actually had a fall season. However, perhaps because of lifelong conditioning or whatever, that just didn't really seem like a "season".

Now, the season starts!!! I'm nervous for him, his former teammates that are playing, and for all of our HSBBW kids. To be able to wear a college uniform and live part of their dream is an overwhelming blessing. I, like Redsouthpawmom, can feel the tears already coming.

I hope that will all cry a lot of "happy" tears this spring. However, if not, it's nice to know there's support and shoulders around here.
Unlike lafmom, I didn't miss this the first time around, it just didn't have the same meaning to me as it does now; my son's team had just started practicing when TPM posted. With his season starting next week, well, it takes on a whole new meaning. My husband and I are planning, weather permitting, two trips down to see his team play, and hopefully our son will be a part of it. Thanks, everybody for the crying-alert-- cry I think I will invest in Kleenex stock NOW!
This topic was not neccesarily about sitting or playing time. That's being dicussed somewhere else.
It's about the emotions that you go through the first year without really knowing what to expect.
Even though you have read other posts from parents on their first year experiences, nothing is like your own and for us it was very emotional and very humbling.

Good luck to all!
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This whole freshman year thing is very unknown. I am not at all used to letting go. I keep saying to myself that he has a coach and trainer. Pitching batting practice this December meant throwing the ball and saying "good job." I'm not very good at this job of fan and supporter.Thanks TPM. Your comments were really welcome and gave me a lot to think about.
Unlikde TPM my son does not look good in purple. Yet.... But he will.

Baseball has always been a very personal thing between me and my son. I coached him for eleven years and we were always best friends through it all. We never had a spell where we did not get along. Even when he was in high school I could look at an at bat of his and say two words to him through the fence and straighten him out right away. After a play in the field or an at bat that didn't go right he would find me in the stands and signal to me what he did wrong so I knew that he knew.

We leave for our first games next week and the hardest part is that you don't get to talk with them about what is going on. My son and I always talked about everything that was baseball. We don't now (mutual decision) because it was time for us to let go. I asked him how things were going and he sounds ready and excited. I am nervous as heck for really the first time ever.

We are still best friends and always will be. He is a great young man who has made some great choices in his life. I attribute much of our closeness to baseball. It was always our common ground.

So here we go next weekend off to his first collegiate games. I have no idea if he will play or not. He is traveling which is a good thing. My real hope is that the team does well and the kids stay injury free. That is the most important thing at this point in time. I have always felt that the better the player in front of him plays, the better he will have to become. That theory has never proved me wrong.

Wish us luck.
Benchwarmer, what a wonderful post...My husband decided last year to "let go" a little, by letting our son get onto a new team that he would not be coaching, just spectating!

Like you, we do not know if he will be playing, but he is having the time of his life. He loves the school, the team and his coaches! And he's getting great grades. I guess that's all you can hope for, and if he plays, that's the icing on the cake!

Good luck to everyone!
Regardless of whether your sons will be playing in teh beginning, enjoy every moment.

HHH,
My husband's line last year, "glad I'm not the coach". You'll get used to it and actually, it's quite nice going to a game and not worrying if he needs drinks, food and snacks, gum, ice for the shoulder, etc. Big Grin
For those of you with the let-go-itis, you will find, in many cases, the team's athletic trainer becomes much like a parent. I recommend all the sons to take the time to get to know the team athletic trainer. We take care of their aches and pains, we're the first one they call when they have the sniffles, and yes, often we go the food and snack and gum runs. Quite often, we're the sounding board if something, on or off the field, is bothering them. For me, baseball was the most rewarding sport to work because the players were always the most appreciative.

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