Saw an intresting post just recently that got me wondering how kids get introduced to having the interview with a coach. I'm curious about early conversations, perhaps before the really important ones might roll around. My 2017 is pretty comfortable around folks in general but I am not sure he knows yet how a real offer conversation, or the several that proceed an offer, flow. I am sure he would be content talkling about baseball. Trying to make sure he understands when/if a coach begins any level of serous discussion that it is probably good to have some standard responses (especially if the school involved is far down the list but might be the first to initiate a discussion). He has not had any of these conversations yet, but with a few more MPH I could see some smaller schools beginnning to express interest. He may have a conversation this weekend and that may be the only school to ever show interest - how does one show continued interest in that program while waiting to see if others show interest later? I guess I know the answer so my question is better stated how do you ensure that your kid can pull off these conversations when mom/dad may be 100 miles away. Anybody go so far as having practice intereviews at home?
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All I can say is to trust that you did a good job raising your kid, installing manners and knowing how to talk to adults.
Frankly, we might have asked our sons a few questions ourselves ahead of time to make sure we were on the same page, but otherwise just let them be themselves.
I would echo what justbaseball stated. Let him be himself as much as you can, but if you can get him in front of a school that might not be his first choice that is a great thing too.
With my son we knew he was going to his first choice school in late July of last year. Another school about 5 hours away asked him to visit campus. Was it easy to get there? Not really. Was it worth it? Absolutely.
It gave him and his mother and I a great dry run. At one point my son casually mentioned "I hate school". I almost fell off the sidewalk as we walked. He is a good student, but doesn't like the academic part of school. His mother suggested a different way to address the topic.
On the second visit (where he ultimately committed) he was much better prepared. He knew what to expect and how to address certain questions and situations. Things went much smoother. I imagine some of that had to do with that this was the right fit, but I have no doubt the other visit was helpful as well.
Good luck
A kid can never go wrong addressing the coach and other male adults as "sir." If he is introduced to an admin assistant who is female call her "ma'am." And never forget to say thank you for anything. Good manners and respect are always in style. Even if a kid gets nervous he's a good kid if he's polite.
Talk slow and think quick.
Know the difference between how you talk to a "familiar" and everyone else. For example, "Thanks" is ok for a familiar but "Thank you" should be used for everyone else.
Don't sit until invited to sit.
When you shake hands, look that person in the eyes.
When asked tougher questions, he should smile and think to himself, "Why do you want to know.?" From there, answer the question the best that he can. An example would be if he were asked the amount of monies offered by other universities.
I hope that this helps some and this advice might not be the right thing for you. It is what my daughter did.
Anybody go so far as having practice intereviews at home?
Absolutely. We used alot of the windshield time going over questions, answers and school data points. My oldest son is naturally shy so this was good practice for him
Some kids are more comfortable than others with speaking in general, never mind talking to a recruiting coach. In my experience, a really good recruiting coach knows how to draw a young man into a conversation he feels comfortable with. One of the funniest conversations I witnessed was between my son and a former head coach who overheard my son talking to his recruiting coach about the knuckle ball and how to throw it. My son went into the physics and biomechanical requirements of the knuckleball. I could tell both coaches really enjoyed listening to him and they were able to take that conversation as a baseline to get more information about him. Of course I just sat there and listened to the whole thing....laughing on the inside.
Everybody has their own style. Some kids take a little more coaxing to get them started. Once they get started and get those first few interview/conversations under their belt it becomes second nature. Good manners, and calling a coach "sir" goes a long way.
Good luck.
Make sure that your son takes the lead in researching the schools/programs that are of greatest interest to him. The specifics that come up in that process will fuel great questions that he can pose to the coaches when he talks with them.
They'll be impressed with the amount of insight he's picked up, and his questions will serve as the foundation for a great give-and-take when conversations take place.
In our case, this was no more evident to me than when we had an unofficial visit at Stanford. The former recruiting coordinator there was well known for his directness and candor. During our hour-long conversation in his office, I said no more than half-a-dozen words (I swear! ); affording me the opportunity to sit back and revel in the amount of capacity and presence my son had picked up along the way.
With the other valuable elements already mentioned in this thread and what he picks up by spearheading his recruiting research, he'll handle himself extremely capably when the time comes.
Best of luck to him!