listening to 'other parents'

College coaches (D1 and D2) can't call until July 1(D1) following a players junior year. However, if they want to talk to your son, they can call his HS or travel coach and have your son call them.

Some 2012 players are being courted by colleges, and perhaps the other player really is being pursued already. Or his mom may be exaggerating or misunderstanding the situation.

The way to get college coaches to take an interest in your son (and not to just invite him to a revenue producing camp) is:
1)Get him exposure through travel teams, high end tournaments, showcases, and camps.

2)He has to be perceived as a talented player. You can't significantly affect or control this.

Also, the 2012 players that are getting interest now are the 'blue-chippers". Unless you son has been playing for a well-regarded travel program, or his high school plays other schools who have very high level players, or he's gotten a high rating at a well recognized showcase, then he won't generate early interest, because he isn't on the "radar".

Even if he is known, his perceived talent may limit him to later interest, after the the high profile guys have committed.

Next time you see them put your fingers in your ears and say…. la – la – la – la – la…..
You won’t be able to hear them anymore.