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I was at sport complex today watching my daughter's volleyball practice and notice a baseball team of young boys ( maybe 10-12 years old) practing in another part of the complex.....so I walked over to watch a little...the were a couple of pitchers working on the mounds with either dads or coaches. I stood there a bit, watched and listen. The boys had some nice arms. I listened to the instruction that their dad/coach was giving them. As a dad that has spent a lot of time and money on my son's pitching lessons, I have learn a lot by just listening. Much of the stuff I heard these kids were being told to do was much different (wrong) from what I had learned from watching my son's lessons. I had an urge to bud in and start giving my advice or at least suggest that they get their pitchers some lessons. However, I just kept my mouth shut and went back to my daughter's practice.

I always wished that someone earlier in my son's career would had suggested to us to get some early coaching, just to learn the mechanics at a younger age. But since I was worried that my advice would not be welcomed, I just kept my mouth shut.

Maybe I should have just copied down the web address of this website and suggested they check it out.

Baseball's best teams lose about sixty-five times a season. It is not a game you can play with your teeth clenched.

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You did the right thing dad43 imo. You can imagine how your advice would have been taken in the middle of a practice in front of the players. I can certainly understand your frustration and your desire to help. I can tell you I went through this watching my own son's teams as they were growing up. I wanted to step in and start coaching in the middle of practice but I just kept my mouth shut. I would offer advice when I was asked and only then.
Coach May, you are right. I just figured that my advice would be not be welcome. I wish I could tell you that when my son was 11 years old that I would have reacted in a postive manner to someone coming up to me and giving me unsolicited advice, not sure I would have.

What I do know is that if I had found this website back when my son was 11, the odds would have been greater that I would have reacted well.

If there is one thing that this site has done is to reinforce to me is how much I do not know and how much there is to learn.
Staying out of it was the right thing to do. Like Coach May said, showing up the coaches wouldn't play well. The coaches could lose the respect of the players and parents.

If I'm at the cages, see a kid doing things wrong and struggling, if I can chat with the dad without the kid hearing (never show up a dad in front of his kid) I'll offer advice IF the dad is open to listening. Whether it has anything to do with my instruction or not, there's credibility from him watching my son cranking line drives.

I've watched kids look good on the mound or in the cages and asked a parent where the kid gets instruction. It can never hurt to learn. But it has to be in an approachable situation.
Zomby...I hear you..I agree with you and that is exactly what i did..just keep my mouth shut and moved on....all i was trying to discuss....I wish someone had said something to me earlier in my son's career...but like i said I am not sure i would have taken it well... with the benefit of hindsight I wish I would have
I used to take my son the batting cages when he was in little league. We were there one day during the week. A guy pulled up and got out and offered to give my son a batting lesson. He was in town for a coaches conference and was killing time between meetings and looked for a cage to hang out at. He had a bat speed meter and seemed to know what he was talking about. Turns out he was an assistant coach at MS State, at the time. Jr. had a good lesson. Since I knew that I knew nothing about hitting, his assistance was welcomed.
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