Fungo,
Here are my personal thoughts.
There may not be an “I” in Team, but there is a “ME” in tEaM.
Baseball is a team game in many ways and it’s an individual game in many ways.
You can support your team mates, do everything asked of you, follow all the rules, etc. However, when you’re at the plate, you’re very much an individual and if you succeed as an individual your team benefits. When you’re on the mound, you have the ability to lose the game all by yourself. In other words, your individual success can give your team a good chance to be successful. At any position, when the ball is hit to you, it’s all up to you “the individual” to help the team. Becoming a better and smarter individual player is the key ingredient in helping the team. If a player has no interest in becoming better individually, is that player a good team mate?
That said, there are many things where the team has to come before the individual. You have mentioned a few of these things.
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Question - We abandon the team to attend showcases. Sure we ask the coach if we can attend, but we still are putting the individual over the team... are we not?
When players tell us the reason they can’t attend an event is because their team is playing at that time (I get a real good feeling about that player). I also wouldn’t condemn the player for attending a high profile showcase with permission from his coach. Often, it is the coach who calls us wanting to get the player into the event. To me this is a good coach trying to do what is best for the individuals on his "team". (I get a real good feeling about that coach)
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Question - Would we recommend our son transfer if, in our eyes, he wasn’t allowed to play his primary position or if he wasn’t getting enough playing time?
I’ve never really believed much in transferring schools, but I sure can understand why someone would want to for individual reasons. Most every team will change yearly or end (graduation). However, you as an individual could continue to play on another team. Teams change, but the individual must go on. Transferring schools is too personal of a decision for me to have any opinion on.
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Question - What about the player that leaves his teammates during the summer to compete with the select team while the bulk of the high school team stays together and competes locally?
This is a different situation in my mind. This is where the player must make a tough choice. Nobody stays with their high school team mates forever. Sooner or later, everyone goes their separate ways, be it college, professional or other. My question would be… is it fair for the team mates and coaches to hold back the one or two guys who would benefit greatly by playing at a much higher level? After all, being good team mates goes both ways!
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Question - Parents, when you take your son to a private lesson are you doing it for the team or are you doing it for personal gains?
This is for individual gain and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it. Besides, it in fact, is helping the team, if the player becomes better individually. So unless the team has a rule against it... Maybe, his team mates should be thinking about themselves and the team and do the same thing.
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Question - Are we really team players or are we just team players when it serves our best interest? Should we make personal sacrafices for "our" team?
It always serves a players best interest by being a team player. However during a players career he could be on many teams. He needs to be a team player on all of them. Individual sacrifices are part of being a team player, but if these sacrifices exclude doing what it takes to be better individually, it can hold back both the team and the individual.
These are just my thoughts, I’m sure some would disagree