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...nothing a young players parents do surprises me anymore.
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...What on earth are we doing to our kids?
Exactly. With all good intentions...There is a fine line between dream and disaster. IMO we as a society have too often adopted a "win at all costs" philosophy for our kids. And while the physical toll can be very visible and makes us cringe and post in capital letters and exclaimation points....the emotional toll can be just as, or more devastating, and it is FAR more widespread. And it may be a lifetime until the emotional scars surface or heal. There are lines, both physical AND mental/emotional, that we have to be VERY careful not to cross.
I have seen 12 year old players have complete nervous breakdowns and speak in tounges. Watched happily blind parents conveniently look the other way while their High School sons took steroids. I am currently watching a family in therapy because an a '07 is going to turn down a DI baseball scholarship a few weeks before he was to go to school, "tired of baseball"....it was his parents dream not his.
Does this mean that we don't dream of the top for our children? Absolutley not. Does this mean we don't push the limits? No. Does this mean that we coddle and pamper? Absolutely not. Life is going to be hard our sons MUST be prepared to take it head on. We have a responsibilty to fully prepare them. And they have to be pushed and challenged at times. But we also must respect and honor our young athletes on their path to adulthood...at a pace and on a path that makes sense for them based on the physical and emotional gifts that they were given. (while you may be able to add a few more miles per hour, and may have a late bump, not every player was given the God given ability to reach 95 even with TJ operation...sorry, that is the reality)
The problem is that IMHO youth sports, and success in that venue, is seen by many as an end in and of itself, when in reality youth sports is best ultilized as method to build better adults and human beings. I know that this may be construed as sacreligious, but raising healthy, happy, productive, acheiving adults is the real goal. College scholarships and professional sports careers and 95 MPH fastballs are a possible side effect of the bigger goal of parenthood. Give me a happy, well adjusted son, built in part thorough the challenging experience and difficult lessons of baseball, and I'll be happy....even if he tops out at 86.
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