Skip to main content

I'm thinking of a way to help a young player deal with fear of the unknown.

This might sound weird but there was a scene from the show "Lost" that I think might help. But I can't find it online nor do I know to make a copy of this clip.

In one of the very early episodes, the doctor, Jack, tells a story about how he performed surgery on a patient whose spinal cord spilled open, nerves all over the place.

Jack was scared to death and he froze. But he had a process for dealing with that fear. He would allow himself 10 seconds to be scared. He'd count to ten, then he'd banish the fear from his mind and buckle down to the task.

Now, my player isn't a neurosurgeon, nor is she being chased by a smoke monster. But at times she is overcome with worry about what's coming....what's different...what's new.

I could describe this 10-second theory to her but I think the way kids think, that actually seeing the clip would work best.

Any ideas?
Original Post

Replies sorted oldest to newest

quote:
Jack was scared to death and he froze. But he had a process for dealing with that fear. He would allow himself 10 seconds to be scared. He'd count to ten, then he'd banish the fear from his mind and buckle down to the task.

Find a situation for her to put the theory into practice. Something that intimidates her (but obviously that won't hurt her), and give it a spin.

Possible ideas
- Asking an adult to do something that is difficult to ask for.
- Giving a speech in front of people who aren't classmates
- Petting an animal that scares the begeezus out of her
- Sleeping out in the back yard by herself for one night


I once talked my daughter into running around the block in a lightning storm (with me running behind her, of course) because she was so afraid of thunder. I couldn't believe she mustered it up, but when it was over, she was so pumped that she ran around daring herself to do new stuff for a month. Fortunately, I didn't get either one of us killed.

BTW, I'm proud of the outcry I'm about to receive for this one - my daughter turned out to be one awesome individual, and still thanks me for all the things I pushed her to do as a kid. Most of our girls are capable of a lot more than we give them credit for.
quote:
Originally posted by wraggArm:
BTW, I'm proud of the outcry I'm about to receive for this one - my daughter turned out to be one awesome individual, and still thanks me for all the things I pushed her to do as a kid. Most of our girls are capable of a lot more than we give them credit for.
Around my house we call that raising our kids. I have a little different mindset, but the outcome was the same. It was called, no secondary crime scene. Bottom line, teach them about their strengths!

Good luck and BTW awesome idea about that clip.

GED10DaD
Last edited by GunEmDown10
It’s a self-defense analogy. Someone who wants to hurt you is never going to take you someplace safer, they are taking you to another location which gives them more power and control. Even if someone is coercing or trying to force you to go with them, your chances of survival are better to immediately fight back where you are, not at a second crime scene.

GED10DaD

Add Reply

×
×
×
×
Link copied to your clipboard.
×