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My wife for allowing me to spend so much time with my son's at the baseball field.

My wife for allowing me to spend so much time at a baseball field period.

My wife for staying home and having supper ready for us when we got home.

My wife for spending all those weekends at some baseball field in the middle of nowhere with nothing to do but baseball.

My wife for passing on vacations for years to spend them at a baseball field.

My wife for letting us dominate the TV with sports for years.

My wife for putting up with me after a tough loss or an ugly win.

My son's youth coaches for taking the time to volunteer to coach.

My son's HS coaches who worked so hard for the players.

My son's travel ball coaches who worked so hard for the players.

My son's college coaches who worked so hard for the players.

My son's college coach who told him "I will be by to pick you up for church so be ready. Then we will go to my house for lunch."

My son's college coach who called him and said "Would you like a job coaching on our staff?"

My son's team mates for being there for him all the time.

My son's opponents for showing class in defeat and victory and respecting the game.

My son's college summer team host families for taking him in like family and building life long relationships.

My son's summer college team coach for asking him to join him on the staff the following summer.

Perfect Game for creating an opportunity for him and many others and helping to create life long friendships and memories.

Heck where else are you going to face Alex Meyer and take BP with Eric Hosmer and then hang and talk ball at 17?

For the Dirtbags, Carolina Cubs

For the HSBBW where I have met so many awesome baseball people.

For an opportunity to coach so many awesome young men.

For an opportunity to watch dreams come true.

For an opportunity to in a small way help dreams come true.

To see my former players do so well in life.

To the parents that allowed me to coach their son and trusted me with their kid.

To the parents that supported me no matter what.

To my long time friend Jimmy Fleming my AD for his support.

For those young faces covered with dirt, sweat and smiling at me after a long day at camp.

For that look in a young man's eyes determined to come through for his team.

For that look on a young players face when he did.

For that hug from his team mates when he didn't.

For those long bus rides laughing and talking about anything but baseball.

For those hours in the dugout after a game or practice talking about anything but baseball.

For those those hugs from your players when they say "love you coach."

For "Thanks Dad."

 

I could go on forever and I love that I could. There are too many things to be thankful for to ever mention them all. Many of you are in the thick of this race and some just starting out. Take the time to enjoy it and be thankful for it. Don't let the worries of today steal your tomorrows. Please add to the list.

 

 

 

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Wow!!! once again amazing post. I will add a few

 

My wife who pretends to love baseball because all her boys do

His GF who loves him and supports him for many years even though she could care less about baseball but still comes to watch

My parents who come so regularly to his games

Son's siblings who gave up much (like vacations other than his baseball tournaments) so he could continue to play and still support him

Son's HS pitching coach who was an amazing reference for him both as a person and as a player

The community we live in who supported him thru HS and then continue to come out and support him while in college

His HS teammates (a good majority will be lifelong friends) who cheered him on when he was doing good things and picked him up when he didn't 

The host family of his first summer college ball experience (only one to date and still going on). They brought him into their family and treated him like a son

 

 

I've witnessed parents ranting, raving and stressed from kiddie ball through the college recruiting process. Baseball, or any other sport was always an experience in stress. Coach May has the right perspective. The glass isn't half full or half empty. It's so full it's overflowing. My kids athletic endeavors have been as much fun as anything I've done in life. I remember the exact moment my daughter "got it" as an athlete. I remember telling my wife about our son, "He's going to be more athletic than both of us." There were a few minor aggravations a along the way. But in the words of my kids, "Get over it. I did."

For the cage time where he learned to really feel his swing and found it to be his happy place where he could go to unwind or if needed have a talk on his terms!!

 

We had the conversation about leaving local ball and moving to the travel circuit in that cage over 3 or 4 hitting sessions...he made the move on his own after lots of conversation about it.

I remember when I finally "got it." My youngest son's soph year I decided at "my wife's request" to take our team to the Ronald McDonald House in Durham. My wife has worked at the Cancer Center at Duke Hospital for over 30 years. She told me about the families of her patients that stay there and how this would be a great experience for the boys. She told me about how some parents had to quit their jobs because they couldn't travel to Durham everyday for their kids treatments and they stayed there full time with their kids. The stories were heart breaking. I really didn't want to do it because I didn't want to have to face those kids and parents.

 

I finally gave in at her request and we loaded up the bus and took the short trip to the Ronald McDonald House. The plan was for us to spend the day just hanging out with the kids. Play video games, ping pong, other games and just hang out. Many of the players didn't want to go. Heck I really didn't but not for the same reasons many of players didn't want to go. It was a Saturday and the boys had the usual plans that kids this age have on a Saturday.

 

We arrived and met the staff who were great folks. They introduced us to the kids and the parents and it was amazing. The kids were so happy to see the players. They thought they were Major Leaguers. The guys were playing video games, ping pong, watching TV and talking. I was hanging out with several of the parents. The parents started telling me their stories. Brian has brain cancer. He is 9 years old. They told us right now they can only help with the pain. We are hoping for a miracle. But right now we have been told he only has a few months. Kahlin has inoperable cancer. He woke up one day and was dizzy. We took him to the Dr and they said he needed to see someone at Duke. In a matter of days everything in our lives changed. We are praying for a miracle. He loved playing baseball. Thank you so much for having your boys come over here and spend time with them. What do you say to that?

 

I watched my guys playing with those boys and girls. I thought about my own children. I thought about my priorities in life. What was really important to me? What I had to be thankful for. How blessed I was and my players were. When it was time to go that night several of the young kids were hugging my players. Telling them to come back. But the fact was they wouldn't be around long enough for us to come back. Many would be gone. And the fact was I was later told every single one of the kids had a terminal illness.

 

Once we were on the bus it was dead silence. Several of us were in tears. It changed my life. Your going to worry about a pop time and some parent has a Brian? Your worried about a showcase and they have a kid 9 years old with a brain tumor? It put some things into perspective for me. It didn't quench my desire to work hard and compete. If anything it strengthened it. But it definitely put some things into perspective. So as RJ said much better than I can. "I got it." I hope you do as well.

 

We are blessed man. We are truly blessed. Each day is a gift. Our children what can I say. Be thankful. Because we have so much to be thankful for. Sorry for the long post.

For all the friends he's made along the way and the ones still yet to come. They truly are friendships for a lifetime.

For all the other competitors on the field who gave it their all each and every game. Good competition and sportsmanship lead to improvement for all around.

Thanks again Coach May for another wonderful post and for helping us all take a moment to count our blessings.

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