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I personally tape and keep a book on every game my son pitches, I don't miss a pitch and the tape will never lie. (Tell the Seahawks that)
I know my pitch counts are accurate because of the tape and because I don't small talk with other parents or fans. Yes foul balls are calculated, because afterall those were pitches.
I bit my tongue about this until the day before the season started last season. I told the coach that I was uncomfortable with my son throwing that many pitches and he said he would never intetionally hurt my son. He has other players keep pitch counts for their pitchers. You think small talk goes on in the stands? Think about what is going on on the bench when a kid isn't playing and he's got a pen in his hand. This coach is one of those that wants absolutely no parent involvment during the game. By the way, I have no problem with that. Last year my son was the workhorse and went over 100 pitches numerous times. I'm still not totally comfortable with that either, but at least it isn't 137. I finally had to have a meeting with the coach and vice principle right before this school year because my son didn't attend registration and the rumors started flying that he was transfering to the crosstown rival. I think the coach finally started to listen to my concerns when the vice principle was there. We will see what happens.
By the way, I have talked to numerous D1 coaches and pro scouts about this very subject and have heard numerous answers. I want to protect my son, but I also don't want to be labeled the idiot screaming parent, not that I care what other people say about me. I'm at the point now after talking with this coach about this subject of screaming because nothing else has worked.
Coaches: Please don't think that all parents are clueless or don't know anything. For the most part it has been us, the parents, who have been there nurturing, coaching and working with little Johnny to get him to this point where you now have the priveledge of working with him. Also remember that it is us parents who fund and get our kids where they are supposed to be. We will also be the ones who get to foot the bill when our sons get hurt and possibly unable to keep playing.