PLAYER APPEARANCE = MEXICAN STANDOFF

me thinkum sound strange bad medicine

The coach is the boss.

It's a good opportunity to teach junior about picking his battles and things that are truly important in life.

5 years from now he'll have a different haircut that doesn't matter anymore and for the rest of his life have missed playing HS baseball.

He can be right or he can be happy, pick one.

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He says he will get an academic scholarship any way so he won't cave.

He may find it is harder to play summer ball if he goes all spring without playing when his summer teammates are getting reps in. If he's thinking he'll play college ball, what will his answer be to "why didn't you play HS ball"? I bet no college coach will touch him if the answer is because I didn't want to get a haircut. I agree with CPLZ...time for the "pick your battles, you won't be the one dictating answers for the rest of your life" talk

Well seeing that you asked for opinions... Here's what I think.

What if the college coach tells him to get a hair cut. What if the Yankees draft him and tell him they want him to get a hair cut?

I'm not saying he should cut his hair, but there are coaches who don't want their players to have long hair or wear jewelry. (I was one of those coaches) Whether that is right or not would be another discussion all together.

In this case, it looks like he is going to have to give up something. If it were me it would be the long hair, but that is not anyone's decision to make except yours/his, unless you want to take it to court. If that happens, usually everyone ends up losing something. (except for the lawyers)

If the hair is more important than playing high school baseball, some will not understand that.

My son's college team will not let him grow facial hair. You know what he does? He shaves. It's time to grow up.

And what in the world does a junior high record have to do with anything? Our best pitcher in junior high was a stud his freshman year, was moved to varsity his sophomore year. Got rocked his junior year and did not play baseball his senior year because he never had to work at his game before and it wasn't worth the effort to him. Sounds like you are enabling him to be a prima donna far before his time.

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Originally posted by Tx-Husker:

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He says he will get an academic scholarship any way so he won't cave.

He may find it is harder to play summer ball if he goes all spring without playing when his summer teammates are getting reps in. If he's thinking he'll play college ball, what will his answer be to "why didn't you play HS ball"? I bet no college coach will touch him if the answer is because I didn't want to get a haircut. I agree with CPLZ...time for the "pick your battles, you won't be the one dictating answers for the rest of your life" talk

Pretty much what I said but I can't get him to cave.
He has been approached by another HS coach who say come here and play I don't care what you look like but would require moving 50 miles.
Wants to go to college to be a doctor says he would rather try to walk on than give in. he is playing
about 40 travel games plus practice 3 times a week.

Or he could just try out for the softball team and fit right in. Of course, all the softball girls I have seen put their hair up or wear it in pigtail thingies.

1. He's not Lincecum
2. Agree with Tx-Husker about not playing - what will college coaches think.
3. Johnny Damon, Johnny Damon.....
4. What if coach knows this and its his way of not having to deal with an attitude?? Not saying it is but you asked for opinions.....

Good point about the Yankees. They are the most successful franchise in the sport and they will not put up with it. Johnny Damon had no problem complying:


Perhaps you can get an electronic picture of him and photoshop it to show him how nice his hair cut will look. There might be some hair design studios who could do that for him so he might be more amenable to it. I have a hunch gotwood4sale will have some suggestions for you

As long as my son lives in my house, he lives by my rules.

When he plays for his HS team he lives by the HS coaches rules.

When he is in class he lives by his teacher's rules.

When I go to work I live by my bosses rules.

Life is not that complex.

If he thinks that having long hair is more important than baseball, so be it. It's his decision let him live with it.

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Opinions?

Our guys can't wear their hats backwards, have to tuck in their shirt, wear ties on game days....they don't all like it but they do it...because they coach tells them to and they want to play...

I agree. Pick your battles. This isn't a good one. A 'mexican standoff' is when there cannot be a clear winner. This isn't a mexican standoff...the player is the only one that will lose....the team goes on and the coach has either imposed his will or gotten rid of a 'disruptive' influence....

And, IMO, Lincecum's hair looks stupid anyway...

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Wants to go to college to be a doctor says he would rather try to walk on than give in.

while i don't agree with your son not cutting his hair. as long as he can live with his decision...

if you don't stand for something........you'll fall for anything.

Wrong battle, just cut it

Totally agree with BOF.
4.0 gpa is great, hope it stays that way through the next 2 1/2 years of H.S.
I've had my share of surgeries and if the doctor that was working on me refused to cut his hair, I'd have major second thoughts.
I've been a Giants fan since 1958 and love to watch Lincecum him pitch. DO NOT like his hair nor did I like Damon's caveman look. No respect for the game.
My answer to my son if he wanted to wear his hair like Tim's, when you get 2 Cy Young's and are sitting on a minimum 8 million dollar contract ( most likely will be 13m), then and only then I might give in.

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Originally posted by 00'sDAD:
Pretty much what I said but I can't get him to cave.
... he is playing
about 40 travel games plus practice 3 times a week.

You can get him to cave. Tell him that if he doesn't play HS ball, there's no travel ball.

Who's driving the car here?

He's 16 got his own car and licenses.
Saved $8,000.00 bucks for the down payment.
Been doing odd jobs and working since was 11.

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"I have a hunch gotwood4sale will have some suggestions for you."

You hunched right CD!

There's no topping the pic that threeboysdad posted. That leaves me with this speculation...

Split ends? Maybe that's why the coach is so unrelenting...he just hates them! Maybe?

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Originally posted by 00'sDAD:
He's 16 got his own car and licenses.
Saved $8,000.00 bucks for the down payment.
Been doing odd jobs and working since was 11.

I didn't mean it literally,it was a metaphor.

I meant, who makes the rules in your house, him or you? You say you can't get him to cave, but that's not really true. You mean that you can't "talk" him out of it...

Actions speak louder than words. Tell him no HS means no travel, no travel means no baseball.

Knowing what to do is usually easy.

It's not the hair that matters to the coach. As the parent, you need to make sure he understands the real issue. Refusing to cut his hair is sending a message to the coach. Hair is easy, what will he do when the coach commands him to hit the cutoff and he wants to throw home instead? Like it or not, baseball is one of those sports in which the coach rules. And thank goodness for that!