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Originally posted by leftyshortstop:
CD - I think the dad wants us to do what he's afraid to do; tell the kid to get a haircut and make his family proud.

He can't order his 16 year old around. The kid gets good grades and bought his own car........

I wouldn't shave or cut my hair for the hs baseball coach. I wasn't going to be told what to do. So I didn't play. My Junior year I shaved my head and so did the defensive line on the football team. 20 something years later, wish I would have got a haircut and played baseball.

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Originally posted by socaldad:
I wouldn't shave or cut my hair for the hs baseball coach. I wasn't going to be told what to do. So I didn't play. My Junior year I shaved my head and so did the defensive line on the football team. 20 something years later, wish I would have got a haircut and played baseball.

Hair is temporary. Cool Breeze here has 2.5 strikes.

Ok if he takes that round thing out of his ear would the lobe eventually end up back normal or is he going to look stupid the rest of his life?

I really have no idea.

Coach

The hole closes up in a short period of time,

Earings do not bother me because the kids don't wear them during the games anyway--it is not only against the rules in most places but it is dangerous

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Originally posted by fillsfan:

What I'm having a hard time with in this thread is that everyone seems to think this kid did something wrong. I don't think he did.

Not everyone thinks the kid did something wrong. The Dad was asking for advice on what to do. Many of us have told him to let his son do as he wished, just warn him of the consequences of each choice. We've repeatedly said there is nothing wrong with making a choice that does not include being on a team. In fact, a few of us even think it would be the best scenario for the team if he were to keep the long hair and move on from baseball.

I've looked at much of this thread as helping the Dad come to terms with his son no longer wanting to be a part of a team sport.

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Originally posted by coach2709:
Ok if he takes that round thing out of his ear would the lobe eventually end up back normal or is he going to look stupid the rest of his life?

I really have no idea.

Regular sized piercings will close over a short period of time. However, the holes made by "gauges" as in the photo, depending on the gauge and the individual, take a much longer time to "heal."

Some people, my nephew included, never commpletely heal. At least that is what he is beginning to believe after waiting two years. And, yes, he still looks stupid.

My son had "normal" piercings and took them out six months prior to going to umpire school. They healed in about three months, but he still has a noticeable scar on each ear lobe.

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Originally posted by sandlotmom:

Not everyone thinks the kid did something wrong. The Dad was asking for advice on what to do. Many of us have told him to let his son do as he wished, just warn him of the consequences of each choice. We've repeatedly said there is nothing wrong with making a choice that does not include being on a team. In fact, a few of us even think it would be the best scenario for the team if he were to keep the long hair and move on from baseball.

I've looked at much of this thread as helping the Dad come to terms with his son no longer wanting to be a part of a team sport.

The kid was wrong if he allowed his immaturity to overrule his brain and lost out on something he loved.

If, however, he was looking for a way to leave baseball, he still could have been more honest about it instead of turning it into an alleged deprivation of his personal rights.

If you play chicken with a coach, you'll get scrambled.

Any way the hair hit the floor on this issue the I in team not there, but when the hair stays where it is the I comes out.

Old winning coaches know this...easy cut, pun intended.

My son's coach is just opposite, he doesn't want him to cut his hair, coach says with his size he looks very intimidating on the mound. Likes the look. His hair is long down on his shoulders, and goes crazy when he starts sweating.

I hate to keep this stupid thread going, but the best thing 00's dad could do is let him read through this thread to see what an idiot everyone thinks he is.

I don't think he is doing anything wrong, he seems to know what he wants to do, it's dad whose having a problem with his son's decision, so much so he has already checked out if it's a legal rule or not with his board friend.

It's very difficult raising all types of kids, even ones that seem to do everything they should yet are so determined to prove a point they may not realize they may be hurting themselves in doing so. It's our job, IMO, to try to make them understand and reason (within reason) the consequences we choose as young adults could affect their future. It's also our responsibilty to make them aware that there are rules we may not like, but they exist.

Some say it's ok to be different, but I don't beleive that, it's not normal for teens to want to be different than their peers or not be part of a group. Kids will do anything to be accepted and be a part of something, that's why many play sports.

All kidding aside, perhaps there's more to it than we are aware.

JMO.

Personally I have no problem with a young man/woman wanting to be different.

In fact I have been different my entire life--paid the price a number of times but it has been a fun ride to date

TR - thanks for the info on the earlobe. I think I'll stick with the natural look and not the big gaping donut hole for my own look.

This is really all semantics but I don't have a problem with a kid being themselves but I have a problem with them being different. To me being yourself is what it is. You have your own personality, likes, desires, wants and needs. You do the things you want to do without the desire to bring attention to yourself.

Being different means you want people to look at you because you have this need to be the center of attention. You dress funny, have funny hairstyle and / or say stupid things. Might be some narcissim involved as well.

As for this player who won't cut his hair he could fall into either category and we really don't know because we don't know him. I hope he falls into the first category and I hope he's not cutting his hair because he wants out of baseball but doesn't have the courage to tell his dad. Which brings me to my next hope - he learns to overcome that and be his own man. This attitude can serve him well later in life in whatever he chooses to do.

If he's doing it because he wants to be different then I feel sorry for him because he's in for a long hard life. People won't want to deal with him or help him out because they really won't like him. He'll be a jerk and pull chains because he feels like he can. He might be successful professionally but probably not as successful as he could be.

I went to college with a guy who was a character. He had a mullett, wore gym shorts everywhere at anytime (even winter) and basically made an ugly guy even uglier. He was who he was and he made no issue about him being different. He was that one guy everybody knew and everybody loved him. He was himself (which was eccentric) and he was the man. He became a lawyer and last I heard he had cut his hair, started wearing suit and tie. This is an example of being yourself - he wasn't trying to be different just for different sake. That is who he is / was.

Hopefully this boy turns out like my buddy did.

Coach

That is the way I was--being myself---if that was different in peoples eyes so be it--so I respect the different aspect--I can also respect and understand this young mans stand based on what we have been told

Coach2709,
You bring up some good points. There is a difference, IMO.

Anyone know of what happened to Khalil Greene? He was VERY different from his teammates, and very different than most people. They just said he was doing his own thing, in the meantime, he has very deep rooted issues.

Whatever, I can't beleive we are still talking about this, dad most likely will never come back and we will never know what transpired.

Don't worry folks, baseball is just around the corner.

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Originally posted by TRhit:
Coach

That is the way I was--being myself---if that was different in peoples eyes so be it--so I respect the different aspect--I can also respect and understand this young mans stand based on what we have been told

Are you advising the young man to go against his coach's requirements? Please be careful. His father seems to be looking for someone to endorse this direction. Don't take lightly what ramifications this may cause a 16 year old player. What might have made sense when you were young, may not apply in this situation.

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Any way the hair hit the floor on this issue the I in team not there, but when the hair stays where it is the I comes out.

Old winning coaches know this...easy cut, pun intended.

Best response I've seen.

Is This 00's Son?