Warning...a Mom's long perspective
Playing multiple sports can be a 2 sided coin. Our 2013, like many young talented athlete's, can excel in more than one sport, and choose early on to participate in as many sports as they can. Our son was no different, HE chose to & did.
Pro's:
*Provides structured atmosphere to fill young men's time.
*Provides positive environment for bonding as a 'team'. There's no 'I' in 'team'.
*Instills opportunity for building and/or creating character, values, dedication, work ethics, life lessons & time management.
*Provides real life experience for their future real worlds, in cooperation, taking direction, dealing with success & failure, intuitiveness of those around one, and leadership skills.
*Keeps an athlete physically fit, and conditioned.
*Provides opportunities for an athlete to challenge themselves & set personal goals & expectations for themselves, athletically & academically.
*Allow them to have the time of their lives. Memories in the making!
Etc. ...
Con's:
*Can lead to an early burn-out.
*Can lead to a heavy stress load, that some young men, might not yet have the emotional & mental maturity to yet handle.
*Can keep an athlete from experiencing other High School, Life, and Religious opportunities.
*Can cause havoc on a social life or relationship. But, that's a whole nother can of worms! Maybe, this one should be listed under" Pro's"
*Can make it more difficult academically in maintaining a higher GPA, which can effect them later on.
*Can lead to overuse, fatigue, and injuries. Which lead to a whole bunch of things...Dr. appointments,
tests & procedures, PT, rehabbing, more time restraints and management issues to deal with. Not to mention, a lack in athletic performance, bench time ~ for the 1st time for some, and possibly at the worst opportune times. You never know who's watching.
There are also Pro's & Con's for the "family"...
Con's:
*Forget about vacations & much of a social life, outside of your Sport's Families, being around some of them at games, is enough. You'll be spending your time on a bench or lawn chair. Dress accordingly!
*Expenses...gear, equipment, food, travel and hotels, lessons...
Pro's:
*You'll have golden opportunity and priceless times with your son, at an age, where otherwise you wouldn't be high on their social calendar.
*You'll actually like some of the Sport's Parents & find new and lasting friendships.
*You'll have the opportunity to learn some things that you might have missed in High School - Life #101. Like, juggling many things at once, the best ways to clean a uniform, managing time, politeness, patience, diplomacy, restraint, anger management, being positive under less than ideal circumstances, the best places to eat & drink...
While we tried to never be "Those Kinds of Parents", we never pushed any of our 3 sons into sports. We only tried to provide them the opportunities. With 2013, we definitely never had too. Nor did we have to critique his performance. He pushed himself, he was always his own toughest critic. It was even hard to offer up praise. He didn't take that too well either. He always expected more of himself. A lot of quiet rides home, we'd wait & follow his lead, if he chose to want to open up and talk. And if it wasn't with us, then it'd usually be with a trusted friend & teammate. But, thee one thing we did require, was that they took the time and consideration, before "they" made a commitment to sports, to anything. Because, once they had made a commitment, they understood that there would be no grumbling, and would honor their commitments, 110%!
Now, looking back at all of those Pro's & Con's, I can honestly say that he / we experienced many of them. But, if we were to ask 2013 today, if he would of done things any differently in hindsight, I can almost guarantee that we would get a resounding "NO way!" For he lives and breathes the provided competition of sports, and everything that goes with it. He, himself in High School, would say that sport's defined so much of who he was. But, now in College, reshirting, rehabbing from Tommy John surgery from the Summer after High School, I think he would say that he still has the desire and love of playing sports, but that it no longer defines him as a person, or his future. But, that playing sports, has definitely helped prepare him for life, and help with the direction that he has himself, for his life. And that it has not only aided in the person that he is, but the kind of Man, Father, Leader that he hopes to become.
As for us, the parent's, we wouldn't trade any of it, for all the gold in China!