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I know this is a baseball sight, but this post is a warmup for many of us with '06s.

Last night was junior's last football game ever. As Mrs Windmill and I watched these young men leave the field, victorious one final time, we were sad. Junior isn't a star, not even a starter; he backs up his buddy at QB, is special teams captain, holder on place kicks. His non-special teams play for his varsity career consists of 9 plays, one pass, completed for 10 yds. There is not a lot of difference btwn Tom and his buddy, the starter - the biggest difference is the other guy spends the summer preparing for football - Tom is generally playing baseball right up to the day football camp starts. In this day of "If I'm not starting, I'm departing" I am proud of my son for devoting 4 years to his team, his school, his coaches, and his friends. As I watched him hug each of his coaches one last time last night, I couldn't help but think forward to what will soon be his "last HS baseball game ever".

He came home from practice Thursday with a couple blades of grass from the field ["Last practice ever, tonight, folks].

Playing football, instead of concentrating on baseball has cost him a little. He performed poorly at a college camp this fall, because he was still sore from the football game the night before - probably cost him a shot at playing for that coach. His fall innings were down - couldn't really pitch on Saturdays b/c of Friday nights, missed some games when coaches were in attendance. But he wouldn't trade his football memories, such that they are, for anything.

I tried to gently convince him last year to give it up and concentrate on baseball - I gave him all the reasons to quit, told him to think it over, and we'd talk in a week. When I asked him a week later, his answer was "I'm gonna play" - last time the subject came up - his decision.

At this point I am so happy that he did NOT take my advice. He has grown and matured into a fine young man [even if he was voted Class Clown - at least now he knows to pick his spots laugh] - the football team is a big part of that, more so than our baseball team.

All of his coaches have had a huge impact on him, and he will miss them dearly. Coaches sometimes fail to realize how much impact they have on kids - especially the guys that are not the STARS.

Tom isn't a super star - he is not a D1 pitcher, not a pro prospect like many of the sons on this site. He will likely make a decision soon on which D3 school he will attend and play for - no money, no big stadiums, no TV, no pro scouts, no equipment deals from Nike or Easton or Rawlings or Mizuno, no free glove every year, no free bats, no free closets full of apparel. But if his college years provide him with half of the memories and good friends that his high school football team did, he will be a fortunate young man, indeed.

I can't say I feel a whole lot better after posting this, but maybe a little. I know sadness is a relative thing - we have all experienced REAL sadness. My brother watched the game with me last night, played at the stadium where his son played, but killed in a car accident 2 years ago at 17. Bro couldn't stay the whole game - I think it was a little too much for him - that's REAL sadness. But the other kind of sadness, well...there's a bit of that here at the Windmill residence to shake off today. Another great reason for this web site - lets us share our feelings and our stories with strangers who are our friends. Thanks!
Of all the things I've lost in life, I miss my mind the most!
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probably cost him a shot at playing for that coach.


My son had a tryout one day with a team and didn't hit very well, and I thought "probably cost him a shot at playing for that coach".

While the coach was explaining "the deal" to me, I said, "He sure ain't hitting it very well today....".

And the coach said, "I have seen him play many times and I am not worried about him hitting."

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He will likely make a decision soon on which D3 school he will attend and play


Many of his friends wont.


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But if his college years provide him with half of the memories and good friends that his high school football team did, he will be a fortunate young man, indeed.


As you move closer to the beginning of college all of those LAST TIMESquickly fade away into a new start with new friends, new places, new challenges, and more baseball.

Read about the ladies gettin the boys started in college and that way you'll be very slightly ahead of Mrs. Windmill for a brief period of time.

Time is a magnificent healer even for
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REAL sadness
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Windmill, your post touched a deep chord with me. It is very tough. This may just be my own psychologixcal problem, but I find myself constantly thinking about the things my kids used to do, or that we'd do together, that they no longer want to do. Mine are 10th grade, 7th grade, and 3rd grade. In addition to those big time-marking moments such as a last football game, there are also those daily reminders that they're growing up and will someday leave you with three empty bedrooms. The worst one for me right now is this: I teach at my daughter's school (she's the 3rd grader), and she used to come running all the way across the play ground to give me a hug whenever I'd pass by on my way to wherever. But now all I get is a wave from afar and then she runs off in her play. ****, I have to stop typing now.........
Krak - I'm feeling ya!! Junior is my last, so these are our LAST "Last Times". Felt it not so much w/daughter #1...Daughter #2 played 3 sports in HS [thankfully NOT s****r!! HAH], so we had some "LASTS" then, but she's playing field hockey in college, so we're easing into it with her. I think a lot of it with Tom is that he is close to being a man, and there are no more after him - maybe that and the fact that I will soon have 7 YOUNGER bro's and sis's that are 40!! Maybe it's not so much that he is getter older, but that WE are getting older. Either way, IT AIN'T EASY!
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The last time in HS is a sad day no matter what sport they play. FO is correct when he says that now they'll have new firsts. My son is now at a DIII playing his heart out, living with 7 other baseball players and spreading his wings. He is growing up. We raise them to become mature young men but a certain sadness goes along with it. In HS, you knew pretty much what was going on in their lives and you knew their friends pretty well. Now I hear the stories but it really isn't quite the same. You don't know their friends well, if at all, just mostly by name and maybe a face to go with it.
He still comes home and goes out with his "old" friends and hopefully the best friends he had in HS will always be there but he's moved on, as have the others, and now they've simply added some new best friends. They're spreading their wings and now we're not such a big part of their lives, which is what is the hardest part. But knowing that they're happy no matter what is what keeps it in perspective. I'm glad your son followed his heart and played football this yr. Wherever he winds up, he'll be on the road to many more firsts and hopefully he'll find the right fit for himself and he sounds like he'll have no regrets.
Windmill, I can remember exactly how I felt last year at this time as my son's HS senior year was in full swing. I'll tell you that the spring enjoying that last HS season of baseball will disappear in a flash!

On the same note from FO, one of our HSBBW parents told me last spring that while I would always cherish the HS memories, that he and I would enjoy the beginnings of his new journey in college even more. I think it's taking me a little longer to get there than son - those were wonderful days and will always be remembered with great fondness.

I still have a sophomore HS daughter and want to enjoy every minute of her years left at home. Again, HS is a very special time.
Windmill, what a great post. I remember how you are feeling.
The best part of the lasts, is the firsts, even if one does not go on to play baseball.
I am with FO and lafmom on this one, I cherish the lasts but we have enjoyed, more than any other year, his college firsts.
My advice, enjoy this last HS baseball season, You an mrs. windmill smile and laugh each game day, win or lose. Smile
Windmill,

Thanks for a really thoughtful post. Senior year can bring smiles and tears, although I was not as sad as I expected, to see my son's last HS baseball season winding down. He accomplished some exciting goals that year, but at the same time he was looking forward to starting college baseball in a few months. Now he's a college soph, and on a visit home this weekend, he mentioned something to me about being glad that he had found "the perfect college for him" (like your son, a D3). Loves his team, has made lots of great friends, and although we have always been a very close family, to be honest he doesn't miss old mom and dad when he's at school. A happy part of his life ended, but a new more exciting part started.
Windmill that was a wonderful post. Your son is a star. The guys who go out every day to practice and know they are not going to start ar the stars in my eyes. He also has parents who love him and support him and that makes you stars as well.
I also tried to get my son to focus on baseball in his senior years but he wanted to play basketball. We were okay with that. He did sprain his ankle and was out for a month but he still went to every baseball workout and did whay he could.
Maybe now he will get a chance to concentrate on school and baseball and he just might surprise you.

"NO REGRETS"

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