I have 2 players and a 3rd that has the best physic but not the desire drive or work ethic.
My oldest is a freshman in college now, and I honestly never thought about baseball for him while he was still in the womb
. He was not given a baseball glove to play with in his cradle. I wanted him to play frisbee, lol! I was a freestyle frisbee player, you know the guy on the beach with the ponytail spinning the disc on his finger around the back and doing body-rolls and flamingos. He was to be my freestyle partner one day.
My older brother got in the way though when my son was 4 and gave him a bat and ball for Christmas and when we first, the very first time we tossed the ball to him from 10 feet away he held that bat pretty much correctly and drove that wiffle ball like a bullet accross the room. Tme and time again He did not miss, hard line drives hitting the lampshades, we had to go outside because we were going to break somthing.
He began Tee Ball at 4 which at the end of the season was coach pitch. And he was very good, I mean he could hit the ball to the outfield, he could catch the ball on the ground or in the air and he could throw rather well for a 4 year old.
I just played ball with him from then on and gave up frisbee.
By the time he was 7 he was putting the ball to the 200' fence and actually bounced one over when he was 9. By the time he was 10 he was hitting homeruns and had pitched, played 1st SS and 3rd effectively.
He began to ask me if I thought he could play baseball on TV one day. What was I supposed to say? I said sure! Why not?
He drove the deal, he had the desire and passion and the God given skill. I just support his dream.
It was never a thought that he would not make his HS team.
I have guided him though, and steered him away from pitching. Why? I guess because I was looking beyond HS and beyond College and I realized that Pitchers typically are above 6' and closer to 6'3". My kid can throw 90 with movement and good offspeed stuff, but he is just pushing 6' now. If he wanted to play at the next level he would need a position that scouts would project him to play. So we just relied on the bat and continue to develop the finer details of his other skills.
My point is I suppose that "It is what it is", your son "is who he is". There is no need to worry, it is not fool hardy to look ahead and see what your kid physically can be projected to do, we have always looked to the "next level", but kept our eyes also on the goal. It would not be as much fun without the goal.
My advice would be that if you are looking beyond HS and your guy is not going to be 6'2"+, focus on his bat. If he can hit he will play.
Encourage him to climb trees and build forts, hammering a lot of nails.
Long toss as much as you can with him. And my favorite was to back him up near a fence and at first throw, then eventually hit hard short hops at him, hit him with the ball, if he will not take it off the chest (short hops, not line drives!) and keep it in front you may have an outfielder. Pretty sadistic, I know
I gave mine many a bloody nose before he was 10, but by his own volition he would not stop, he would wipe the blood away and wait for the next ball.
Who knows, I did not do this to him or make him into something that he already wasn't.
Some boys are just born to play baseball!