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I am really sorry to hear that. Is this your younger boy? I can imagine how it would hurt.

No, Senior.

That is a true bummer, and I am sorry to hear that

I am so sorry. Hope your son will be ok and that things will somehow work out for the best.

I am so sorry.

Very sorry to hear that...do they have to do that before the holiday geezzz

Very sorry to hear that.

Man that is a bummer, I am so sorry for you and your son, that really stinks.

I also like the others am very sad to hear this. I can speak from experience the let down you are experiencing to a degree.

But with your son being a Senior I would imagine this young man has encountered many ups and downs on various levels his past 3 years of college ball. During this time he will reflect on those times and determine to himself how to pull himself up by the boot straps and forge on.

I think you'll be surprised at his resolve on his will and determination to press on. He's a much stronger young man today for what all he's been through and even this set back will cause him to look deep within himself.

Keep your head up. And watch the young man you've raised step forward and prove you were right all along.

Good luck!

YGD

I think we all feel the pain when this happens to one of our HSBBW friends. I know I do. Hang in there.

I am so sorry to hear this news. I'm sure it came as a surprise. But like others have said, he's almost got his Bachelor's and the rest of his life opening up before his very eyes. It'll all be good!

iheartbb,

I can only imagine how you feel right now. Maybe it is a blessing in disguise. What really surprised me is the part of being cut as a Senior. I know you will enlighten us more once the dust settles. We wish your son and your family well during these tough times.

God Bless,
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That's got to be tough. I suspect many of us would be interested in how he (and you) handle the transition. Eventually we will all be there, for one reason or the other.

Very sorry to hear that. Best wishes to you and your son during as he works through this. Other doors will surely open.

I know this kid.was one of the best atletes from our area.I just do not beleive these coaches should be able to do that to a senior.The kid cant go anywhere else, just really is a very sad situation.

I'm really sorry to hear this... Best of luck to your son as well as the rest of the family as you all process this news...

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Wow! I can't really say anything more than what has already been posted by others. All great advice in my opinion. Please keep us posted iheartbb.

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Wow that is shocking!

He has good stuff and had a very respectable ERA last year with a good amount of innings at 41!

I am so sorry to hear that!

So sorry to hear this, it's a part of reality but somehow hurts us all when it's someone we know.

How does your son feel about all of this?

I too am sorry that this happened. I am of the firm belief that in addition to MLB being a business, college sports are not far behind in the way the student athletes are treated. Shouldn't be that way - as long as a student follows the rules and gives it his best, a coach should be required to honor that commitment.

Sorry to read this. Very sorry.

That's just brutal. How is he doing?

Oh man, how sad. I am so sorry.

I echo all that has been said......especially that it is brutal to cut a senior. Did your son have any idea about it, I mean, did he secretly know this would happen and so he had started to mentally prepare for it, or did this come to as much of a shock to him as it did to you?

My heart aches for him, for you, and for all of the seniors that this happens to. Business, shmusiness, it's not right to do this to kids who have given and sacrificed for 3 years to the program. I know there is no loyalty to anyone anymore, but, please.

It is coming for most of us. We too are sorry that it has happened and wish your son well. I recall the look on my dad's face when I was cut in high school both my freshman and sophomore years. Still, we moved on. Your son will be off and running for his career soon. That will be a new game for him to play.

Share sentiments of all--heart goes out to all in your circle negatively impacted by this decision.

Not sure it is any consolation but the adage "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger." comes to mind.

iheartbb,

I am truely sorry to hear of this major blow. As we all know going into this a day will come when our sons hang up their cleats for good one day. Your son has had the joy of the game longer than most and you have had many opportunities to share in that joy with him throughout the years.

I can't help but consider the day I learn that my son has played his final game.

I have a hard time with a program that cuts a contributing senior.

My best wishes to you and your entire family as you adjust to this unwelcome news.

What a total punch to the gut, right in the midst of what you thought was a great day, getting in the holiday spirit. Sorry you and your son had to go through that.

so very sorry. How awful to cut a senior. My heart hurts for him.

Sorry to hear it. It's a little surprising given he was a contributor last season. From someone who has had to look at the bright side of a bad situation: If there's a plus side he'll have time to compete with the graduating class for jobs in a tough economy rather than waiting until the season is over. At some point he will still proudly say, "I played college baseball."

I get this ache in the pit of my stomach whenever I hear these stories.

Iheartbb: Things will work out and baseball will once again be a part of your sons life, maybe in a different form, but it will always be there.

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Great post RJM. I have read each post and I have wanted to post but I simply can not find the words. I know your son is hurting and you are hurting for your son. The bottom line is if your kids are hurting , your hurting. It your kids are not happy you are not happy. My hope for your son is that he will look back on his baseball days with fond memories. I hope that he looks back on his baseball days with pride and takes solace in knowing that he did things and accomplished things that the vast majority of kids will never do.

My hope for your son and for you is that this pain will pass and the negative emotions will fade. And the real lasting memories will be the ones that bring you pride and smiles. The bottom line is sometimes life just plain sucks. But it we hang in there the sun will shine once again. Tough times don't last. Tough people do.

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Iheartbb...

First, thnak you for your presence here...you are always on the up...and it has been noted and appreciated.

I echo our esteemed coach May...hard to find the right words...particularly in this type of abrupt circumstances...and didn’t really find them...but felt it was important to respond...

Having been down this road recently I have a few observations that may be of some help /interest if not, then take them as simple empathy. The first part has to be obvious concern for your son, how he handles it, what suggestions and help you might give...Making sure that he is feeling clearly supported and loved in this time of challenge and change

The second part is the parental experience. At the risk of being really melodramatic, baseball is. or has, become life for most of us and as such, this is real milestone for those of us who have been at it for a such an extended period of time. We all talk about this day, we all know it is coming, but I can tell you from experience that this stuff cuts deep...and I worked hard from day 1 to minimize the shock…and worked to be ready for the end. We can make every intellectual effort to understand the fleeting nature of the baseball endeavor at this level, the process, the inevitable fact that the journey will end, to recognize the clear, definitive and certain nature the numbers game. We can recognize the danger of a complete emotional buy in...and so leave most all of it to our son...and sit beyond the outfield wall…and never talk to the coach…and don’t wear team gear...and avoid gossip…and the speculation...and fail to “dream the dream”...and seemingly and smugly manage to keep the process at arms length, but only when it ends do we realize that there was no chance...we were
still bought in and that there was no hope of emotional distance. The fact is that we as human beings seek naturally and unconsciously to find a toehold in the chaos and competition that is our world…like it or not we find an emotional slot and we cling to it...it gives us comfort and meaning and a “home” for ourselves...and as such we take on that slot as an identity. For our sons that slot is athlete and ballplayer. And for a long time (more than a decade for many)...we have walked this world as a baseball parent…and we get to be really good at it and we take great pride in it…and we care…and most of us become the ultimate team player...we sacrifice for the “team” good. Now that life slot changes and part of that is a grieving period for what once was, and what might have been for our son’s but frankly also for us. Yes grieving for such things is not overly melodramatic...it’s natural, it hurts badly, and you have to weather it.

I can assure you that beyond lies something different but something good for you and your son that you cannot at this point foresee, the same way that the baseball journey you have been on was far beyond your ability to predict. Certainly your role as parent will never change, but it shifts to much less active phase and baseball is an amazing connector...and the level of drama changes. And you have all kinds of new space and you have to figure out who goes into that empty. You can fill that empty long term with sadness, with bitter, with the past, or move on, open and ready to embrace the next adventure. Bon Voyage!

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iheartbb,

Oh my, I am so sorry. It hurts so much as parents to see our kids go thru such a rough time. I hope he is able to bounce back and fill his mind and heart with positive pursuits (including his classwork, of course). Maybe an opportunity or new passion will come to him in this, his senior year, and he will look back ten years from now and say "all this would not have been possible if I had played baseball my senior year".

Meanwhile, know that we are hurting with you.

Great posts by observer44, Coach May and others. Thank you so much for taking the time to share those thoughts.

Julie

I am so sorry. However, if your son loves to play, he should keep playing. Perhaps he can catch on with a summer team and be seen. Send letters out, etc. I wish him the best of luck.

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iheartbb,

I am truely sorry to hear of this major blow. As we all know going into this a day will come when our sons hang up their cleats for good one day. Your son has had the joy of the game longer than most and you have had many opportunities to share in that joy with him throughout the years.

I can't help but consider the day I learn that my son has played his final game.

I have a hard time with a program that cuts a contributing senior.

My best wishes to you and your entire family as you adjust to this unwelcome news.

Well said, and it echos my thoughts.

I wonder how prevalent this practice is for seniors who have been part of the program for the previous 3 years?

iheart.. I am so very sorry to hear this. I know your son must be feeling terrible about this. Give him a hug this Christmas and I pray things work out for him in the future. He was (and is) a kid who gave 100%. That's all you can ask.