USSSA BASEBALL COMPLAINT

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Originally posted by getagoodpitchtohit:
All I can say is......WOW!!!

OCB, I won't repeat the parade of posts saying basically the same things in slightly different ways......while I can understand your passion, I strongly suggest that for the sake of your son, if not yourself, you would do well to take to heart what RJM, TPM, & Coach May are saying. They have been there, done that. They have seen you and your son before (most of us have), doesn't matter whether it's FL, AZ, VA, CA, NY, or anywhere in the US. Again I strongly suggest listening to what they are saying, because although in your heart you may mean well, in the long run you really don't want to be THAT Dad, if not for your sake most certainly for your son's.

I will say for the record the reason I posted this thread was to see if others have had this experience. Im not as concern with this as some of you are making this out to be. I am somewhat new to travel ball and wanted to know if this is the norm and maybe learn from some of you how to approach this.

Some of you might think it foolish for me to move my family, some of you might think it foolish to file a complaint. My reasons are very simple.

First whether its my son or someone elses. EVERYONE should be treated equally when it comes to rules.

Second pertaining to moving my family. If my son is not going to get a fair shake because of bias, which will hurt the amount of time he wants to spend playing baseball, then we go where he will get that opportunity.

Its no different than some of you maybe moving because you have a better job opportunity. Its no different than moving because you dont like where you live. Its no different than moving because you want your son to play for a certain high school team. There are a million reasons you can apply. It just happens I DO THIS BECAUSE I LOVE MY SON.

I do this not because he is the next Jeter or because its hurting his chances to play HS or college baseball. I do this because I love my son and my son enjoys playing YOUTH baseball all year round.

I have learned in my short time in travel ball that a lot of parents are crazy as $$$. I have learned that daddyball does exist and there is nothing you can do about it. I have learn that TDs are in it for the money and not the kids. I have learn that most coaches are going to do whats best for their kid and not the team. I have learn that bigger less athletic kids will make teams over smaller more athletic players.

There may be those of you who want to analyze every single word to find another meaning to my statements. However its very simple. Whatever I do its for my son so he can do what he enjoys more than anything at this present time, which is baseball.

I have learn a great deal in just over a year. However I already knew that none of this mattered until it came time to hit the big field. I played D1 ball. I didnt start playing baseball till I was 15 yrs old so trust me I understand that at this age none of this matters.

My SOLE purpose at this time is for my son to have fun and play as much baseball as he wants too. Why because I love him and I will do everything within my power to give him what he enjoys.

Will you move every time your son hits an obstacle in his life? Or will you teach him how to man up and work through the problem? I believe some of the best lessons my kids have had in their lives (21f and 16m) have been about life not always being fair and how to work around it or deal with it.

I agree with RJM - 100%

I think you are full of it. 10 yr olds have a passion to play video games- are you gonna make sure he gets to do that as much as he wants too? And nobody, unless they have rocks between their ears, uproots their entire family for 10yr old baseball.

Adults like to make more out of a situation than there needs to be. Not 10yr old kids-- they don't care if it is AA AAA or Majors etc they like to be with their friends and have fun. From my understanding, nobody is stopping your son from playing - you are the obstacle.


You came on this board looking for validation - nothing else. You have found out that few, if any, think you are fighting the good fight. I think most find it absurd when talking about a 5th grader or is it 4th?

That pretty much connects the dots.

Great advice by everyone. You may be capable of manipulating the situation right now. In fact you really are. You can move until he finds a situation that is suitable for you and your son. You can continue to do that throughout his entire baseball career however how long that last. But your missing the entire point.

At some point and time every player no matter how talented they are will have to overcome obstacles or they will simply walk away from the game. Every player at some point and time will be in a situation that requires them to man up , look in the mirror and make a decision. Do I fight , do I battle , do I have what it takes inside to get this done? Your teaching your son some lessons that you have no idea your actually teaching him. In your attempt to help your son because you love him your actually hurting him. This happens all the time.

Of course you love your son. And you want him to have the best opportunities at the game he loves and you love to see him play. You are no different than every parent on this board and almost every player that plays the game. But sometimes in a parents attempt to help their son they hurt them. This is one of those times. If your son plays long enough there will come a time when you have absolutely no control or ability to manipulate the situation. Your son will not have the ability to deal with situations you can not manipulate because he has never had to because you have always done it. The ability of young men to face a situation in the game that demands that THEY face it and deal with it will determine many times if they are successful or not.

The toughest , hard nosed kids who have had to deal with adversity and have learned to overcome adversity will be just fine. The ones that have had their hand held and every situation manipulated for them will fold like a cheap lounge chair when the going gets tough. And believe me no one is exempt from having to deal with adversity in this game at one time or another.

Let this BS go and tell your son that life is not fair. Get him on another team in your area and let him enjoy the game. If you are doing it stop with the drama around him and let it be about what its supposed to be about. Thats my advice to you. Take it or leave it. I wish you and your son the very best.

Bravo.

Isn't it amazing how players survived and succeeded when there was no travel ball !---all three of my guys played HS and college ball and they made it before the days of "travel" ball

I am wondering if the son even knows what's really going on.

I understand you love your son, we all love our sons, it is your choice to do what you want to do, but just know that you will not find ONE place that is the perfect place.
You are upset because you feel every player should be treated fairly. I am seriously wondering what you are going to do when your son gets older and you find out that things still are not fair, this is something you will learn along the way, no matter what age your son is at, life isn't fair and neither is baseball.
If I were you I would reread everything Coach May has written to you, he has experience as a dad, coach of high profile teams and sent many players to college and proball, he knows how it is and given some good advice.

Who cares if you played D1 ball, how many years ago?

You came here looking to see what if others have ever been in the same situation, you got responses, yet you still continue to babble on. Not once have you said you might have learned something to take away from the experience. You say you are not concerned but want to move? If you were so concerned your son will not get fair playing time because of what has transpired, and you have learned about the cons of travel ball, why not put up or move on.

You even went so far as to post a topic where to find good year round baseball...for a 10 year old, get real dad.