son 2011 has verbally comitted to a D1 that he really likes but another D1 SEC school has asked that he come for an unofficial visit this weekend. Should he go just be sure, will other get mad if they find out?
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If he is committed to a team he wouldn't visit another team. So should they still honor his scholarship if he is willing to look around?
I wouldn't go. I know of a kid that did that and the school that he gave his verbal to decided not to take him. These coaches talk to one another. JMO.
Well he has not signed anything. So if the coach he commited to has not shown the commitment to get him signed then I would say you are good to go.
However IMOHP "A man is only as good as his word" !
However IMOHP "A man is only as good as his word" !
Unless you suspect the school you committed to will not honor your mutual verbal agreement then I say "no" you shouldn't go to the other school.
We agree with all about staying with committment but sometimes doubt creeps in and the what ifs...
I think it is a fair question you ask but the reason you don't do it imho is because you might regret you gave your son that advice someday. You raise kids to be men and women of their word. That is the most important thing they have at the end of the day. It is more important than gold or the SEC.
Ask yourself this...
Do you want the school your son committed too offering his scholarship to another player...just in case at the end of the summer they end up liking the other player better?
I doubt it. Keep your word. Have fun finishing out the HS season and playing summer ball.
Do you want the school your son committed too offering his scholarship to another player...just in case at the end of the summer they end up liking the other player better?
I doubt it. Keep your word. Have fun finishing out the HS season and playing summer ball.
This troubles me. You gave your word and the school also gave theirs. If your son wants to now continue to go on visits call the school he verballed and tell them he wants out of his verbal. I would not allow my son to shop around after he gave his word.
This is the time period in all of this when a kid should be enjoying the fact he has it behind him. This is the time where he is focusing on his grades , his hs season and getting prepared for the next level. The entire reason for an early verbal is to put it behind you so you can do the aforementioned without all the bs. It appears this is not the case with your son. If he is wanting to make other visits and is shopping around it appears he made a bad decision to verbal early.
Before you give your word you have to understand that there might be another girl to come along. She might look better. She might peak your interest. Now you have to make a decision on how good your word really is.
As far as early verbals go this scenario happens all the time. A player gets an offer from a good school and he is enamoured with the fact someone is courting him. He jumps at the opportunity to take the offer. He then goes out and blows up at a couple of tourneys and all the big boys come out of the wood work. Now he starts to have second thoughts. This is called making a poor decision.
Never verbal early unless you know that this is where you want to be regardless of who comes calling down the road. If you even think that you might not want to make this move then dont. If your son is going to have regrets about his decision then have him call the coach and tell him he wants to look around some more and to take his verbal off the table. And then live with it. Otherwise tell your son to honor his word and stop shopping around. Be loyal to those that gave him the opportunity he accepted and focus on the things mentioned earlier in the post.
I know of a 2010 who is a really good player. He got an offer the summer before his jr year from a good SOCON program. He took it and was very content with his decision. He had a great Jr year and even a better summer. He switched his verbal to a Major D1. If your son is not happy with his decision and wants to take visits the right thing to do is call coach and be straight up. Open the process back up and dont make another decision until your sure.
I would say stick to your word. But to be honest with you I wouldnt want a player that really didnt want me. I wouldnt want a player that came just because he gave his word and would rather be somewhere else. So be upfront about this with coach and good luck.
Early verbals should never be made unless the player is sure that is where he wants to be no matter who else comes calling. JMO
This is the time period in all of this when a kid should be enjoying the fact he has it behind him. This is the time where he is focusing on his grades , his hs season and getting prepared for the next level. The entire reason for an early verbal is to put it behind you so you can do the aforementioned without all the bs. It appears this is not the case with your son. If he is wanting to make other visits and is shopping around it appears he made a bad decision to verbal early.
Before you give your word you have to understand that there might be another girl to come along. She might look better. She might peak your interest. Now you have to make a decision on how good your word really is.
As far as early verbals go this scenario happens all the time. A player gets an offer from a good school and he is enamoured with the fact someone is courting him. He jumps at the opportunity to take the offer. He then goes out and blows up at a couple of tourneys and all the big boys come out of the wood work. Now he starts to have second thoughts. This is called making a poor decision.
Never verbal early unless you know that this is where you want to be regardless of who comes calling down the road. If you even think that you might not want to make this move then dont. If your son is going to have regrets about his decision then have him call the coach and tell him he wants to look around some more and to take his verbal off the table. And then live with it. Otherwise tell your son to honor his word and stop shopping around. Be loyal to those that gave him the opportunity he accepted and focus on the things mentioned earlier in the post.
I know of a 2010 who is a really good player. He got an offer the summer before his jr year from a good SOCON program. He took it and was very content with his decision. He had a great Jr year and even a better summer. He switched his verbal to a Major D1. If your son is not happy with his decision and wants to take visits the right thing to do is call coach and be straight up. Open the process back up and dont make another decision until your sure.
I would say stick to your word. But to be honest with you I wouldnt want a player that really didnt want me. I wouldnt want a player that came just because he gave his word and would rather be somewhere else. So be upfront about this with coach and good luck.
Early verbals should never be made unless the player is sure that is where he wants to be no matter who else comes calling. JMO
I understand the position that the athlete has verbally committed. And that he risks losing his commitment from the school.
Since there is no public clearinghouse to keep track of whom has committed to whom, and on what basis, what keeps the school from "overcommitting" and then bumping the least desireable verbal committments? Obviously a pattern of this over time would hurt their ability to sign top players. Anything else stop this?
Since there is no public clearinghouse to keep track of whom has committed to whom, and on what basis, what keeps the school from "overcommitting" and then bumping the least desireable verbal committments? Obviously a pattern of this over time would hurt their ability to sign top players. Anything else stop this?
Overrecruiting does not stop the top players from committing because the top players are not the ones being bumped. There are several colleges/coaches that have a history of over recruiting but still get players every year. They are at the schools that players want to go to so they can afford to hurt a few guys feelings.