When is it O.K. for a high school coach to call one of his players "ugly"?
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If it's in humor its fine... If not then you may have a problem.
I'd like to thank those of you who took the time to reply to my question. The term "ugly" in this case was not used to describe a play, a swing or anything other than the players physical appearance. It wasn't used in a humorous way, here are a couple of examples: "Ugly, get a glove & warm up right." or "Ugly, grab a helmet, you're on deck." Whether or not he is (ugly) would'nt be for me to say, and certainly not in a forum as this. This is now the kids nickname, the kid didn't want it, and his father sure doesn't like it. Gee, thanks coach.
As far as me being too sensitive or politically correct. The kid is not my son, if it were the coach wouldn't ever call him that again. I think that a man calling a boy by a derisive term just to mock him shouldn't be tolerated. We're talking about a 15 or 16 year old kid. Aren't they screwed up enough without someone they are supposed to admire running them down? I played ball, and NEVER heard anything as this. Sure we had nicknames, usually just shortened versions of our names, and no, this boys last name isn't Uglyinsky. I had one coach who apologized for getting mad and saying GD. This was the coach who we went 25 - 0 for. You don't have to be a jerk to win games.
I'd also like to say that I posted in 3 forums, not 4 or 5, so that I could glean a response from my area (California), the general items area, and the coaches area. I doubt we all read every post in every area, and apologize if I used up too much bandwidth.
My next question will be about pitchers, I'll start a new thread.
As far as me being too sensitive or politically correct. The kid is not my son, if it were the coach wouldn't ever call him that again. I think that a man calling a boy by a derisive term just to mock him shouldn't be tolerated. We're talking about a 15 or 16 year old kid. Aren't they screwed up enough without someone they are supposed to admire running them down? I played ball, and NEVER heard anything as this. Sure we had nicknames, usually just shortened versions of our names, and no, this boys last name isn't Uglyinsky. I had one coach who apologized for getting mad and saying GD. This was the coach who we went 25 - 0 for. You don't have to be a jerk to win games.
I'd also like to say that I posted in 3 forums, not 4 or 5, so that I could glean a response from my area (California), the general items area, and the coaches area. I doubt we all read every post in every area, and apologize if I used up too much bandwidth.
My next question will be about pitchers, I'll start a new thread.
ugly? I was called a lot worse. Did not bother me a bit. My"self esteem" was not damaged.It made me better.Did not run home and tell my parents who then called the principal and requested a meeting or hired a lawyer etc etc. Of course that was 40 years ago before anybody knew anything.
Neither I nor my two boys (15 and 18) are overly sensitive to a coach saying something harshly, or occasionally criticizing in a negative way. But for a coach to make up an insulting and unwanted nickname for a player and then use it repeatedly until the whole team starts calling the player by that name is wrong. Geez, it would be wrong for a teammate to do that, but for the person IN AUTHORITY to repeat the insult until the whole team adopts it is out of line.
It depends. Is the kid really ugly?
WHAT HAPPENED TO THE REST OF THE POSTS ON THIS TOPIC? There were two pages - they have disappeared. Who is the moderator for this forum??? Very effectively censored.
No, he just made two topics... In two forums...
