Originally Posted by CoachKMentalSpecialist:
Originally Posted by J H:
Originally Posted by CoachKMentalSpecialist:
Originally Posted by justbaseball:
Originally Posted by kt333:
He knows the risks involved but he is willing to take them as his love for the game outweighs any of the consequences that may follow if all else fails....
This is simply...not possible. Not possible to 'know the risks involved' at his age or this point in his playing career.
No doubt he has read about them, talked to valuable folks about them, thought hard about them...but there is so much more that he cannot know without having experienced it. The grind, the bus rides all night, the lost girlfriends, the falling behind your friends and peers in other lifetime endeavors, the pressures, the financial strains, the 'doing without' on a daily basis...
Does he have a tremendous family support system? He will need it whether he signs for a million bucks or a bus ticket to camp.
I have no idea what the right decision would be for him, but to believe he knows the risks or what it means to play pro ball...would be woefully incorrect.
The player is simply asking for advice. Not your opinion on whether or not you believe his situation or his mindset. You and I do not know who the man is or what lies behind his eyes. The art of assumption is ignorant.
CoachKMentalSpecialist- justbaseball's sentiment was not an opinion. Until you live the process, you don't know what it takes.
Of course you have to live the process to know what it takes. The kid said he's willing. Give him the benefit of the doubt, and either help out, give guidance, or keep your mouth shut.
Wow! Remind me not to pay for your "mental" specialty. SMH.
"The kid says he's willing."
Really? Willing to what? There is no way he knows what he's getting into and if he's lucky you aren't advising him cause you don't either. <-That right there is not a prediction of his failure at all...but there is simply, no chance, whatsoever...unless maybe if his father was a pro player...that he understands whats ahead. Not a chance.
"Give him the benefit of the doubt, and either help out..."
I have given him no doubt...except that he cannot possibly know whats ahead. Help out? Dam* right I'm helping out. But if by "help out" you mean tell the OP what he wanted to hear? No, not gonna do it. Dishonest to do that.
OP's or his choice if he wants to use the help I offered which was to say that if you're a good friend of a kid, you tell him that there is no way to know the risks, to know what he's getting into...there is no way to know this ahead of time. You sit him down in front of a couple of ex-pro players who know what its like and you do everything you can to get him to listen. And you tell him that you won't blow smoke up his backside by agreeing with things like, 'he knows the risks.' But even if he doesn't listen, he will understand it in a year or two. Thats a sure thing.
You see, unless he gets a lotta money, there are a fair number of risks. Even with money, there are risks that he doesn't understand yet. If you minimize that, you haven't done your job as his mentor or friend.
"...or keep your mouth shut."
Sorry, someone comes here to see what others think about their situation...this site would be useless if we followed your advice there. What a silly thing to post to a site full of folks sharing their experiences.
Based on the OP's second post above, the OP wanted affirmation...not real world stuff from anyone who has experienced any of this stuff. Sorry, but you picked the wrong site if you weren't looking for real stuff.