KmomNH -
Welcome to the site!
You have a tough situation and I admire you for the tough love approach which is so very hard to do. You know your son the best and what steps are needed for him to accept responsibility and pull up those all important academics. I'm hoping responses don't get into your decision but focus on your question:
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do any of you know of players who've lost a high school season and recovered to earn a D1 college slot?
Yes. Players have lost seasons for many reasons, both academic and injury, and still had recruiting opportunities their senior year. It's what he does in between that will make the difference. When he talks with the coach about the waiver he should also ask if he can work out with the team regardless of the response. If the coach is willing it will give him an easier way to stay in shape (though being with the team and not playing games will be tough). If he isn't already, try to find a summer team that plays in the most competitive arena possible and gives him the most playtime. With dedication, he will be ready for that important junior season. I hope he has luck with the waiver request!