My daughter is struggling on her summer softball team. She is 16 and will be a junior in the fall. The team is made up of girls who played varsity in HS this spring while my daughter was on JV. She has just plain given up on herself. She gets in maybe 1/2 inning of 1 pool play game each weekend but only if the game is a complete blow out -- and she feels that the coach's mind is made up about her and that is her role. When she does get in, it looks like she's just going through the motions, not working hard. So her dad is like 'If I was the coach, I would have a hard time putting you in the way you are playing right now.' It's like a self-fullfilling prophecy or something. Like if the coach thinks I'm bad then I am bad. She is playing much below her potential right now.
She says in practice that it's like coach just looks right through her as if she isn't there. No tips, advice, encouragement. She would probabaly be thrilled if he yelled at her, but nothing. She asks to try different positions that she played in HS, and he lets her practice wherever, but nothing materializes. Her frame of mind is completely out of character. She is a total 'scrapper', never-give-up, hard working player, but her resolve has cracked. She's talking about not wanting to play in the spring. Any advice on how I can help her?
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