DMs from School

In our experience and from the experience of others at our school who ultimately committed, your experience, while confusing and disconcerting, was EXACTLY what we and others experienced. While to many it might raise a flag, it appeared to be standard operating procedure where we committed. I believe it to be sincere and serious  interest and wouldn't be the least bit surprised if we're both referring to the same program... Feel free to PM.

Your son may be on their B list. They’re interested enough to go through the process to stay active with him. But they may be waiting to see what happens with other potential recruits first.

In addition to what has been suggested, I think you need to understand there are NCAA rules around "contact" especially for a 2026.   The Kabuki dance that you are experiencing kind of sounds like they want to get to know your son better, but they are limited by current NCAA rules.   One way to get around it, is to visit campus.  This can be done a couple different ways either through the athletic dept or through admissions.   Admissions can be used as a proxy to get you into the athletic dept to speak to the coaches.   I've seen it done many different ways it just depends on the circumstances.  It seems the rules were looser back in the old days.

The contact rules and dates have changed over the years, so here are the most recent links.  Its a quick read as the NCAA likes to put a lipstick (lots of pictures) on the pig.   It is a great idea to familiarize yourself with the NCAA recruiting jargon.

NCAA College Bound Athlete Guide - http://fs.ncaa.org/Docs/eligib...t_Resources/CBSA.pdf

NCAA Recruiting Calendars - https://www.ncaa.org/sports/20...iting-calendars.aspx

JMO.