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Originally posted by NOVABBall13:
From my side, Swampboy, I'm not trying to, nor would I want to, curtail any discussion on things. I just think that sometimes there are ways to say the same thing that aren't as apt to be offensive. I don't have a dog in the fight either but do know a number of the kids on my regional team and I know they would be upset about the comment. I understand that it doesn't apply to them but it was generalized in such a way as the label was stuck on them.
These boards certainly do promote discussion, and much of it is really heated at times, but I have also seen many of the old timers step in to ask that people not so familiar with the unwritten rules, not call out players names etc. and when the rosters were posted along with the D-3 comment then it sort of made it personal. Kind of like saying "The Commonwealth kids are of D-3 talent and here's their names..."
But again, as I always stress, this is simply my opinion and it only matters to me. If you feel otherwise then thats great because it would be a boring existance if everyone agreed with everything I said. LOL (hell, I have a hard time getting people to agree with ANYthing I say, and only then I thinks its because I'm their boss... haha)
NOVABBall13,
I think I understand what you're saying, and I respect that you are addressing the issue on its merits.
I think our difference of opinion is over what it means to "call someone out." We're both against it. We have different ideas about when it's happening.
Here's why I don't think anyone was being called out in this thread.
First, Redbird5's comment about low talent and the D1 talent being at WWBA appeared in the thread before the rosters were posted. Also, unlike me, Redbird5 knows the talent and is actually competent to offer opinions on it.
Second, the comment that "this year's Commonwealth Games was great for D3 but in his opinion, was not so attractive for D1 scouts" doesn't mean there were no D1 players at the games. It means the games didn't give the D1 coaches many new looks at D1 prospects they weren't already aware of.
Third, I don't accept your standard that we oughtn't make unfavorable comments about a team once the roster is posted because it would curtail a lot of normal discussion that happens every year. Whether they are posted here or somewhere else, rosters are reasonably accessible for just about any high school, travel, or all-star team. If publication of a roster precludes posting unflattering opinions about the team, then there aren't many teams we can discuss.
Consider this example. There was a high school team in my district that had a very strong team this year with lots of seniors, many of whom will play in college next year. Next spring, someone will undoubtedly start a thread to preview the 2012 high school season. When that happens, it's likely someone will offer the opinion this school's talent is way down (How could it not be?). Would that be calling out the players on next year's squad? The roster will be posted on the school web site. By your standard, yes. By mine, no.
I think the better course of action is not to take comments personally when they aren't intended that way. I've read some very disparaging comments over the past few years about the high school team my son played on. I've read on this site that his high school team was very weak, would finish last in its district, and didn't have any players. I suppose I could have taken those comments as criticism of my son, but they really weren't about him. They were just assessments of the overall team (unfortunately, some of them turned out to be more accurate than I wished). A criticism of a team is not a criticism of every player on it. If the shoe doesn't fit, don't wear it.