My son has been invited to attend an annual baseball banquet at a college that is recruiting him. The school is son's first choice. Any tips for making a good impression while he's there? (He'll be wearing a coat and tie.)
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All he needs to do is be himself
He'll probably be being 'fostered' by a coach or player, but be sure to introduce himself to the other players, ask questions, and let the other guys talk. It will show that he'll fit in, and give him a comfort level that he'll know some of the guys should he attend in the Fall.
I would suggest he use a fork and not wipe his mouth on the table cloth! 
I like TRhit's suggestion to be yourself.
Beyond that, there is probably nothing explicit that one can do other than being inconsiderate or rude that would likely eliminate a candidate. The main thing for a recruit is to have the requisite talent and grades imho.
On the other hand, I believe there are subtle things that can leave an impression even though it may not be something the coach or group is conciously aware but these may influence their subconscience. Some things to consider:
1) Always make eye contact but not uncomfortable contact where you stare someone down. Just enough to let them know you are paying attention.
2) Of course follow the rules of etiquette when eating. Eat slow and observe the dynamics of the group. This allows you to enjoy your food and mitigate mishaps that might occur such as spills or what not. Try not to slouch over a plate or bowl but rather take your time and eat the food carefully to avoid spillage. Never talk with food in the mouth or obviously eat with your mouth open. If this is a formal dinner, learn how to use a formal napkin and how to discard silverware as appropriate such as a salad fork, knives etc.
3) Wait for the members of the group to begin eating (or other activities) before you do. This shows leadership. This shows you are thinking and are more concerned about others than merely wanting to satisfy yourself. In fact, I believe extreme politeness and consideration for others first will go along way toward establishing a connection with them and possibly demonstrate potential leadership capabilities. For example, if you were to get up to get a dessert, asking if there was anything you could get for anyone while you were up, etc.
4) I also like Orlando's suggestion above, ask questions when approriate and listen. Basically, be yourself and be friendly
Beyond that, there is probably nothing explicit that one can do other than being inconsiderate or rude that would likely eliminate a candidate. The main thing for a recruit is to have the requisite talent and grades imho.
On the other hand, I believe there are subtle things that can leave an impression even though it may not be something the coach or group is conciously aware but these may influence their subconscience. Some things to consider:
1) Always make eye contact but not uncomfortable contact where you stare someone down. Just enough to let them know you are paying attention.
2) Of course follow the rules of etiquette when eating. Eat slow and observe the dynamics of the group. This allows you to enjoy your food and mitigate mishaps that might occur such as spills or what not. Try not to slouch over a plate or bowl but rather take your time and eat the food carefully to avoid spillage. Never talk with food in the mouth or obviously eat with your mouth open. If this is a formal dinner, learn how to use a formal napkin and how to discard silverware as appropriate such as a salad fork, knives etc.
3) Wait for the members of the group to begin eating (or other activities) before you do. This shows leadership. This shows you are thinking and are more concerned about others than merely wanting to satisfy yourself. In fact, I believe extreme politeness and consideration for others first will go along way toward establishing a connection with them and possibly demonstrate potential leadership capabilities. For example, if you were to get up to get a dessert, asking if there was anything you could get for anyone while you were up, etc.
4) I also like Orlando's suggestion above, ask questions when approriate and listen. Basically, be yourself and be friendly
shake hands like a man, not a limp fish.
quote:shake hands like a man, not a limp fish.
baseballtoday - I think this is a good tip but let me add something. Handshakes are kind of like Goldilocks and the Three Bears. One style is too limp as you suggest, one is too hard as I am suggesting, and another is just about right. Generally, a handshake should be moderately firm. You are not trying to squeeze the sawdust out of a bat nor should one try and act like a fish.
Yes sir, no sir, never hurt,..oh and I'd refrain from chewing gum! 
Do research on the school, schedule, coaches, and players.
Know who the team plays and who the coaches are and who the key players are, will go a long way when talking to the players and coaches.
Know who the team plays and who the coaches are and who the key players are, will go a long way when talking to the players and coaches.
Good tips -- thanks to all. Will report later on how everything goes.