This isn’t aimed at anyone. It’s a general statement from observations made while two kids went through the journey.
It’s fine for people to spend money they have for extra expenses. If they have it. What I hate to see is people spend thousands of dollars on training each year for whatever sport and not save for college. You would be surprised how many people don’t know baseball doesn’t give a roster full of free rides until their kids hit high school.
Even with sports that give full rides, for 99.9+% of kids who start playing as preteens they won’t know if they have full ride potential until high school. Waiting until high school to start saving for college is a very bad idea.
I also saw too many parents attempt to purchase talent. Talent can’t be purchased. Existing talent and potential can be refined.
I remember being on the patio with a bunch of dads at a friend’s kid’s Bar Mitvah. They were all talking about the agility training their kids were taking at twelve and thirteen. I had to bit down on my beer mug to keep from laughing. Then, the little voice in my head told me not to ask, “Anyone see a difference?”
None of the kids of these dads ended up playing high school varsity. Two were non impact players in their high school varsity sports. I waited until post puberty to get my son involved with FASST (fitness, agility, strength, speed training). I waited until I was developing potential talent.
As for saving for college one of the benefits of having your kids at 33 and 38 is the ability to save from the time they’re born. A lot of the money didn’t get spent due to athletic and academic scholarships.